How can you put off a break up?

Question

My boyfriend informed me the other morning that he doesnt want to talk to me this weekend (my suggestion when I was angry) he says he has things to think about and is unhappy. All news to me. We just celebrated our anniversary. I know he isnt seeing anyone else. I love him very much and we have a good relationship other then communication problems, he is passive and doesnt like to rock the boat which ends up making me angry anyways.
I don't want us to end things, how can I make this work and let him know that we can work this out.

Answer 1

Why don't you wait until he is ready to talk then tell him all these things you just said. Also try not to get angry when you discuss how you can work it out. Your getting angry may be one of the reasons he is unhappy.

Answer 2

From the sounds here, you & your guy have a few problems, and I am not trying to sound mean, See Human Nature is something else sometimes, when you are in a relationship, there are a few things that is needed for it to work and from the sounds of this you do not have a couple of those things, would you like to know what they are?
1. LOVE
2. TRUST
3. HONESTY
4. RESPECT
5. COMMUNICATION
6. LOYALITY
7. SEX APPEAL
8. WILLING TO GIVE AS WELL AS RECEIVE
9. FRIENDSHIP

Now I will not say that this is the order of how you need it to be but I will say that this is the FOUNDATION that you will need to build an true strong relationship apoun,No Strong Foundation, No Strong Relationship. You said that you just celebrated your anniversary, which anniversary is that? year one, two, or are you all in the months still? Just wondering,
Anyway, when you are in a relationship with someone who does not like to "rock the boat" as you put it then you must learn how to deal with that and not get angry with them, because that is showing that you do not actually consider his feelings, you know what I am saying?
You and your guy must get your foundation together before you try to build a relationship that can last okay? Let him know that you do realize that there is a problem and you are willing to take the timeout to fix it before you lose him okay?
I hope this helps you in fixing your relationship.....................GOOD LUCK............................

Answer 3

I think give him the space he needs and then see what he has to say. BUT TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL TOO when he does chat to you - I mean tell him that you dont want to end it - cos maybe he doesnt know how you feel. I was just in a similar situation, where I was unhappy about certain things (as your man is) and when I brought it up with my boyfriend he just shrugged it off like it didnt matter and after a while I ended it with him - when actually I just wanted things to change! but he obviously couldnt see that - so be flexible cos that could help you keep your man.

Answer 4

You need to tell him how you really feel and be very truthful. Express wht you want from him. Communacation is what keep a relationship strong.Alot of males dont like to rock the boat and avoid conflict.Ask him what is truely in his heart and what would he like to see happen for you future. If nothing positve comes out of this then move on. Dont hang on to something you cant have because you will only hurt youself more. Be true to your self. Good luck.

Answer 5

leave him be for the weekend and when he comes back sit him down and tell him how you feel. Ask him what he has to think about and find out if it has anything to do with something that you could help with . Explain that you dont want to lose what you share and be willing to work thru things with him. Don't bite his head off if he says something that upsets you just let him talk then have your say. remember that if you really want to save this relationship you have to do it for both of you .

Answer 6

hm..

let's see.
he is not seeing anyone else.
and
he doesn't rock the boat..
(which makes you angry) so you want someone that rocks the boat?

you don't want to end things but he has to things to think about..
so,
how does you "not wanting to end things"
cause him to not "have things to think about?"

you suggested to not talk this weekend
and he didn't rock that boat...
but you wanted him too?????


too much drama,,,
I'd be unhappy with you for a gf, too.
and I'd want to be alone for a while to figure out why I thought that I did...

but I don't like drama....
.
Now do you, know what i believe you can do for YOUR part in attempting to make it work?
.
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Answer 7

I'm sorry your struggling with this. Unfortunately, both parties must be happy in order for a relationship to continue. Let him go. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship with someone who they communicate with well and with someone who reciprocates the same feelings of love and affection. Don't waste your love on someone who can't return the emotion. Loving someone is hard work. Save it for someone who loves you back. Don't worry, your true love is right around the corner. You just haven't met yet. I hope this helps and lots of luck.

Answer 8

I think that the question you just asked is a very good question. I think it depends on who you ask. Some might see it one way while others might see it the other way. If i had to answer, i would say that you should just not talk to him.

matter of fact, you shoudl just break up with him

good luck

Answer 9

give him time. if after the weekend he is acting the same then you should just try talking to him and if he still feels this way then just end the relationship. i know its hard. but you have to do whats best for the two of you!

Answer 10

woman, he is asking for some space. Let him think about it and give him that space and then talk to him. If you try and force him now you will just widen the communication gap.