Last Christmas, My in law family went down to N.Carolina and I was pregnant with my daughter and my son was 14 months. My mother in law made a comment to my husband, ( which she isn't his real mother she passed on) and he was very upset and left. I stayed and I heard all of families negative comments. When my husband returned I told him what they said and then they backfired on me, saying "why don't you just talk to Katrina since she will tell Travis everything", and I said "Of course I will, he is my husband!" I felt violated with the whole family staring at me. That put a rift in the tides and every since that they have apologized for being stuck up to us. Is she just trying to be nice to us because she wants to see the Grandkids? We have lunch together sometimes and it lasts for 30mins and then she splits and she never really is into my conversations. I know I probably already answered my question, but I need to hear it from someone else. Tell me I am crazy or not.
2006-10-27 01:24:52 · 8 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Okay..I'm gonna be real...how they treated you was BULL ****!!! I get sick of some of the people who answer these questions...turn the other cheek?! Yeah..my butt cheek to where my MIL could kiss it! They treated you like crap and you should FORGIVE?! NOT on your life..they were able to BASH your husband and you told him what was said...OF COURSE you SHOULD tell him what was said!!! If you hadn't YOU would have been accused of KEEPING THINGS FROM HIM..or not sticking up for him!! She's just trying to be nice...and ya know...I'd be so sugary sweet to her to her face...SO SWEET she'd get a cavitity!! Put on a fake cheerleader smile whenever she's around...but WATCH your back...cause I'm sure HOW she felt was expressed several times, whether you were there or not!! And when you leave ...look for the MIL knife in your back!! FORGIVE AND FORGET!? MY ***!!!
2006-10-27 03:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they very well could be trying to be nice to you so they can see their grandkids..i have had a similar problem with my hubbys mother....one night she called and even her mother called my husband and said that i sent her an email telling her that she was a horrible person and a B**ch...i said, then why dont you have her forward the email to you and see what it says...there were no derogatory words in that email
i told my husband when he was on the phone with her, she better get her **** together and become a decent person, because i have every right in the world to not let my son be exposed to her deceitful ways...
now they call me and ask how i am, send me cards and all that crap...i dont forgive and forget very easily, especially when someone is intentionally trying to break up my family...
my mother in law isnt the greatest person and honestly, i will not allow my son to spend the night with her, spend the summer and so on...who knows what she could say to him
thank god we are in the military and dont live close enough to them, because i would flat out tell them you are not welcome in my home unless i am here to supervise you around my son..
you guys are married, he needs to stand up for you even though its his family saying all that junk...he has to live with you and has a family with you, he doesnt need to please his mommy anymore..
good luck
2006-10-27 03:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look it doesnt matter how long she has been in that family she is never going to have genuien intentions. If I were you, dont care about what she thinks. She is a very selfish lady that likes to gossip and be a fake so honey dont look for her approval. She isnt worth it. YOu just worry about your new lil immediate family. That is what is important now.
2006-10-27 04:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their interest is in the grand kids, just take it as compliment. Not all kids have grandparents and its a big part to miss out on. As long as you think that its ok for them to be around your kids and that they wont be a negative influence on them. carry on.
I didn't have any living grandparents and that is something that I can see i missed out on.
Rise above the negative comments, you and your family don't need them. You have proved this by standing up for your husband. now the in-laws know that you wont be taking any of their childish behaviour. They are probably genuinely ashamed of the way that they reacted and constantly feel the need to apologize to you.
Good on you. don't let them get to you as they aren't worth it.
2006-10-27 02:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by by eck lass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
before asking on yahoo answers, ask some questions to yourself:
1: Is she nice to you guys?
2: Do you think she meant to fool you all this time?
3: Is she a bad person?
the relation might be fake but the feelings are never fake..
2006-10-27 01:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by neopolitik 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is be friendly to them and go on about your bussiness. Accomadate them appropriately when they're around, but don't sweat it too much!
2006-10-27 01:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Barak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you may or may not be but its not worth pursuing. be pleasant and cordial to them, and hope they are to you, and try to ignore the negatives...youre stuck with them for as long as youre married to him.
2006-10-27 01:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be nice to her but never allow my children to be with her alone!
2006-10-27 02:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋