I met him 8yrs ago we were both going through breakups. We became strickly friends. Four mos ago it developed into a relationship of intemacy. I want to know where it is going but he thinks I am pushing. He cared for me for 8yrs and I only 4 mos now that I give in he' afraid. He is alot of home issues but I am willing to let him do what he needs to do there. He has no kids but he is 14 yrs younger than me so I am ready to go on but now hes scared. Should I stay or should I go? I think the friendship will end if its over though. He is very inverted and will not express his feelings at all. When we are together everything is cool and apart who knows his feelings. I must be his second real relationship. He says we are dating, but if I see anyone he may not be able to see him again. Is this worth hanging around for?
2006-10-27 01:12:03 · 8 answers · asked by Sybil Sr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some of the best relationships start out as friendships.It helps to make the relationship better if you are good friends first and you already have a certain level of trust with that person.It may be a little awkward at first, making the transition, because you said he is introverted and a little scared. Just take it slow and enjoy being together and spending time together before you start planning the future. Men seem to get nervous if you start trying to put a time on your future together or making too many future plans. Just enjoy each other for now and let things happen as they will. You could have the makings of a long lasting relationship if you take it easy.He will learn to open up to you more as time goes on.
2006-10-27 01:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you both maintain the friendship that you have, and build on that. One mistake that we all make is that once we fall in love our expectations for each other grow to an unreal level. We expect the other person to fulfill our every hope and desire and when they don't we are crushed but honestly we set them up to fail. Just don't limit your relationship and stay friends. Continue to do the things together that you did as friends and of course do more. And don't expect him to be different from the person you fell in love with. Don't start hiding things from each other and keep the communication lines open at all times.
2006-10-27 01:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by chema129 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you 2 nevertheless intimate alongside with a majority of those issues? You 2 are doing issues jointly like a boyfriend and female pal might. do you comprehend if he's seeing anybody else? this could quite could desire to be turning out to be a courting and it quite is in simple terms taking a various direction. regrettably, it is going to need a definition and it can not flow undefined forever. you will could communicate with him approximately it is going to truly. you do no longer could be dedicated or in a courting perfect away. you basically could locate out notwithstanding if or no longer he might want that with you sooner or later. And the only way you will locate this out is thru chatting with him.
2016-10-16 11:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you know this guy for 8 years, you know him more than anyone, So you know how he is. You need to bear with him, and talk, Talk alot. Let him open up. Dont rush things, But listen to him (just because guys dont talk dont mean they're not saying anything). Look at his body language, and study him (dont stare). If you guys love each other, Everything is worth it. Just be patient, he might be scared that you might leave him, talk to him tell him how you feel and that you will stick by him, that will give him confidence. ...................God Bless.
2006-10-27 01:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not. Back off and see if he comes too, if not, maybe you shouldn't be in it. Take it as a sign of things to come.
2006-10-27 01:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by ladybisket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a true friendship it should survive this time, however, he's not really looking to get serious, take it for what it is and have fun, don't pressure him and enjoy the sex.
2006-10-27 01:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Angry Insightful Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can mean ur really good friends or u want to know eachother alot more ight so yes it can if u really like him
2006-10-27 01:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its worth it ...go ahead
2006-10-27 01:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by joj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋