My gf is moving from England to Paris so we can be together. She doesn't speak a lick of French & so we're not sure about her chances of finding a job quickly. The question is, how should we organize our spendings as I will tend to be generous (esp. in the beginning) & offer most stuff while I can't really afford it. I hate dealing with money... what should we do?!
2006-10-27 01:11:19 · 13 answers · asked by missy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe I need more opinion on the way to approach it with her, without sounding harsh! She's just arrived...
2006-10-27 01:19:28 · update #1
Just a reminder, she's my girlfriend... not ust a roommate :)
2006-10-27 01:21:58 · update #2
I would just let her know that you will do everything you can to help her adjust. Help to teach her french and look for jobs if she needs the help. Also say that you are glad she is here with you. But you have to also sit down and have a serious conversation about budget otherwise you will both be out. So let her know you don't want to rush her and you are okay picking up the tab right now but your just not sure how long you will be able to be the only person bringing home funds... If she's lived on her own she will understand and want to do everything she can to help. I'm sure she has already thought of this but you need to make it clear and I wouldn't worry about her taking it the wrong way she'll understand as long as you aren't an *** about it. Well hope I helped a little bit good luck..........
2006-10-27 01:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with a person is hard enough, without the problem of
not having a job to pay your part. Both of you should sit down and
decide on what you both expect. Put it in writing , so you will know
what you two have decided. And also talk about what you will be
able to do now till she is able to find a job. Also put that in writing.
It might not hurt for both to sign and date it.
2006-10-27 08:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All things considered you need to be honest with her. You both are aware of her in need of a job and this is something that she will need to get on as soon as she can, not put off so that it won't become an excuse. It will be more on you until she gets a income and you both know that already, just don't allow yourself to become the sole one for too long. Generosity is one thing.
2006-10-27 08:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others- 50 / 50 split show your roommate the bills and have her pay half do all bills this way -- nothing is hidden -- as to not have to explain this or that bill-- all is up front good luck
2006-10-27 08:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree from the beginning to split everything household 50/50
2006-10-27 08:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive been in that same situation cept my gf was tia and she could speak a little english but not alot. um you could try to find an under the table job for her its like a job that they dont take taxes out of your check and well i guess you could try to teach a little french or get her a teacher. i wish you the best of luck
2006-10-27 08:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by legion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to do with moving in with anyone is to sit and talk about financial matters before they become an issue. Make sure that your girlfriend understands that you want things to be fair and I'm sure you will see that she wants the same.
Good luck.
2006-10-27 08:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by richellle7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all the common expenses that you both want and are willing to pay for like:
electric
phone
rent/(not to sure about mortgage - I don't know france laws)
etc.
then total them all
-----------------open 1 (bank) account for these expenses and each of you contribute 50%
what you do in the beginning until she has her own income will be a loan to her of which she should repay...
I sell on the Internet and eBay and yahoo auctions....
approx 5% of my customers are from France - I don't speak french and they don't speak english..
there are online translators that work
http://dictionary.reference.com/translate/text.html
is one I use...
If I knew french and could list my items on http://www.ebay.fr/ then I believe my sales would increase...
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2006-10-27 08:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50/50
2006-10-27 08:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50/50 and keep the recips so that your friend knows how muck you spent!!!
im not saying it to be mean but when i live with three of my friends we never kept the recips and the others never belive that we spent all the money!! and then you start braking friendships!!!
2006-10-27 08:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by ford_mud_runner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋