GF knows I love her, ready to ask her to marry me, I am the romantic type, bubble baths with rose petals, candles, wine, music, massage, etc. She senses I want to propose, then she get's busy with work, family when I want to see her. Why, what/Confused, really, truly love her. Am I wasting my time or what can I do?
2006-10-27 00:44:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and where were you when I was looking for that romantic type who knows about bubble baths, rose petals, wine, music, etc. See! Thats excactly what I'm talking about....Here you have a wonderful guy, perfect personality and genuinely in love and his girlfriend is having second doubts about getting married?! I don't understand it myself! Hey, if I could talk to her I'd definetly tell her to get it together and quickly because you are a diamond in the rough! Good for you for being a true gentleman. Hopefully your love will come through and open her eyes. Good luck!
2006-10-27 00:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you are truly doing all that for her, and she hopefully enjoys all those nice things, then she has it made. you dont find many men out there that would put that kind of effort forward to please there lady or show their love. but remember that she also has a life that she lived before meeting up with you, somtimes family, friends or just plain ordinary life can take their time away from you. dont put to much into what is reality.. if she loves you, you will know that she does, if she doesnt then she is a fool. for you are a rare breed. rose pedals, and all the other stuff. is awesome. so keep up the great ideas. and may you find your own truth in love. and always give as much as you are willing to recieve. never give more then what you take. or take more then what you can give. .. or you will find you have conflicts that may not be resolved. don'y move in too fast or you could lose her. better yet, ask her straight up what your asking or needing to know from her. hopefully she will be honest with you.. communications is a major factor in any relationship working out for the best.
alot of times we pull away so we cont get hurt.
2006-10-27 00:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she;s just not sure about how things are going to work out. i don't mean like ya'll getting married maybe she's just nervous about the whole thing. you're just gonna have to sneak it up on her man and tell her that no matter what you're going to love her and be there for her and everything will be alright. if it's obvious she loves you then you know she's gonna be busy and you just can't let it become a problem. basically you have to wait until the absolute most oportune time(when she's not busy with whatever, you've got your stuff(ring reservations rose petals that sort of thing) together, the evening is planned, and act cool like nothing out of the ordinary is going on so the pressure is off.) then sweep her off her feet.
2006-10-27 01:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's luck to have found you, and I don't doubt that she knows that.
But us women get scared too. Maybe she is just frightened of the unknown, or is very aware that many mairrages end in divorce, and wants to avoid that possible path. There is also the possibility that she just doesnt want to be a married woman- its a growing view of many working girls out there.
Sit her down, and talk to her. Find out how she feels about mairrage, and children. She sounds like she really values her job. Maybe she is worried about how you view her role as a married woman. Many men like the idea of the housewife and caretaker, but nowdays woman want more. They want a career and their own business succes and identity. Make sure that both your future ideals are of common nature.
And then...just confirm to her how much you really do love her. That she is the only woman for you, and that all you want is to make her happy.
2006-10-27 00:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is scared to commit to marriage at the moment.
Talk about it I think it may have to come to disucssion to find out what is scaring her about it. Instead of covering up the issue bring it out into the open . She may not be ready in the same way you are.
Communication is a great way to bring a topic up to the surface.
Not sure what she is thinking but I feel that she may not be ready for this type of commitment. Does she go to school
Is she finished school How old are you both?
all these questions
I wish you luck and have a great discussion serious and open minded.
2006-10-27 00:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your not wasting your time maybe she is afraid to make the commitment or does not want to get married as yet well don't want to cross that path or wants to be sure that her decision will be the right one, she would not have any regrets talk to her it's a start.But don't pressure her ok.Life is not a race, but a journerney to be savored each step of the way.
GOO LUCK!
2006-10-27 00:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just not quite ready. If you feel she's truly The One, ease up and give her a little time. Just keep on being wonderful to her, and revisit the proposal idea at a later time.
2006-10-27 00:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's scared. That her life wont be as good as she wants it to be. She might be afraid that you might cheat on her later on in life, She might also fear that it wont work. Go set a date and tell her how much you love her and tell her that you would do nothing to ever hurt her, and tell her that the reason you're doing this is b/c you love her too much to ever live without her. (that should melt her). Just be patient and stick by her. Sooner or later she will wake up and know that you are the one.
One thing that I ask. Never make her suffer. PLEASE.
Be nice to her and understand her. Be a Gentlemen.
2006-10-27 00:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must wait with the proposal, because its sounds like she’s not ready and if you’ve been together for a long tome I think its time you sit down and have a serious talk with her, open up to her and tell her she mustn’t waist your time! But choose your words wisely! Good Luck!
2006-10-27 00:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by confussie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You ready for a lifetime of pulling away and rejection.....after a few years of being married to what will be a cold wife...you will regret you every wanted to marry her...take the hints and move on before its too late
2006-10-27 00:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋