I have been dating this guy for 4 years and I love him very much. He is very sweet but doesn't like talking about his feelings. Which has always been fine with me cause he always showed me by doing little things like kissing me and sending me flowers. But 4 months ago out of the blue he tells me he wants to break up. When I wanted to talk about we came to the conclusion that we had some problems that we needed to work on and decided that we should stay together. But every since then he has not been acting right. Some days he is the guy I fell in love with and other days hes moody. On those days he does not want me to kiss him and everthing I say seems to be wrong. When I ask why hes acting like this he says this is the real him and the last four years he was just trying to impress me. I love this man very much and don't want to lose him but don't know what to think of his behavior. So should I get out or stick it out and see what happens?
2006-10-27 00:42:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok this line should tell all to you..When I ask why hes acting like this he says this is the real him and the last four years he was just trying to impress me.
he should not have to pretend to be something he wasn't...so it was all an act to get you hooked, then let the jerk come out once he knew he had you hooked..what a sad, weak man..your wondering if you should stick it out?? i say no,,, you gave him all those years, only to find out it was all an act...nah find someone, who is confident enough to not have to pretend to be something there not..and definately..don't put up with anyone talking to you or treating you in a disrespectful manner..good luck
2006-10-27 00:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you've been with this guy for four years in a very loving, affectionate relationship. It must be hard for things to 'crash & burn' out of the 'blue'.
Perhaps he feels trapped in this relationship after so many years, and is trying to seek 'definition' elsewhere? Maybe the relationship just ran its course. You see, it may be 'out of the blue' for you, but this may be something he's been struggling with , in private, for longer than you think.
Whatever the case, give him time & space. Let him find his own answers. Meanwhile get on with your life, and explore possibilies of your own. Whatever the case, you'll be alright, & remember that time heals all wounds.
2006-10-27 07:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by barbarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are the moody him is the real him..... all guys put on a front when you meet them... you end up falling in love.... and then after you get married they change.... I've seen it many many times. wether you stay or not is up to you and him. Did you ask him if he wants to see someone else? (as this is the other thought that comes to mind)
2006-10-27 07:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a long time to put up a facade a convincing facade
you need to talk there could be other factors he is not comfortable talking about and to switch it on and off mmmm nooo either he is naturally moody all the time or not
there is something wrong
2006-10-27 07:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his expectations are different from yours
how is his family life
are his parents "just comfortable" with each other
you need to ask yourself if you want passion and anxiety that goes with it or steadfastness
then find out where he is coming from
tell him you feel left out of your relationship
ask him if you still turn him on
do you need and stress NEED each other
or do you want a faithful "pet"
2006-10-27 07:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to sit, talk, and re-evaluate the relationship with total honesty.
2006-10-27 07:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he think that you ll never ever leave hem cuz you are so much in love with him....so all u have 2 do "ignore him 4a week or 2
if he truly loves you he ll be back other wise
see your life.
2006-10-27 07:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by joj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know sorry my long term relations are not good im sorry
2006-10-27 07:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by jesica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋