I love my boyfriend very much we have been together 4 years but sometimes he really scares me when he gets angry and freaks out, and embarasses me in public by sarting arguments with people who have done nothing wrong, he has raised his hand to me a few times and strangled me but he has never hit me. he tells me he really loves me and i know he does but do you think one day he will hit me, he calls me names and **** and tells me i cant go out!
2006-10-27 00:32:17 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, get out of that relationship ... NOW!!!
Unless he gets some serious help, he is not going to change.
In fact, it is going to get worse and worse.
Get out now while you can.
I know it hurts, but it will hurt far more if you don't.
Please, please, please, care enough for yourself to dump him.
And be careful about it when you do. Watch your back.
2006-10-27 00:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to scare you even more but with the way people are today, both men and women and families as well, it would be wise for you to get out of that relationship or what's left of it BEFORE he kills you or seriously injures you. Think about yourself for once and stop the worst from happening. IF he truly loved you, he would NEVER raise his hand to you much less strangle you, c'mon now, IS that love??? True love is hard to have and show all the time and this is a classic case of you being taken advantage of and controlled. Do yourself a great big favor and get going before he hurts you badly.
2006-10-27 00:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a question I got asked all the time when I was in the same situation. "Why in the hell do you stay with him". You and I both know the answer because "I love him". Or a thousand other answer that really mean we enjoy being in this hell. Yes one day he will hit you. It's funny because you say he strangled you but you're worried about being hit. I got out of the situation I was in but I was afraid to leave. I thought he'd really come after me then but I protected myself and got a restraining order against him. DO NOT wait until he hits you to leave him if you can get out as soon as possible. I'm not fooling myself to think you will because I didn't until I Almost died from his abuse. You can wait until then or maybe just stay with him because you can make him change sooner or later. The choice is all yours but when it's really time to leave him you'll not even know it because you will be DEAD!
2006-10-27 00:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you to do is to tell him your scared
If it were me I would not stay in the relationship. If he raised his hand to you and has strangled you it will get worse not better.
he needs anger management classes for certain he has a great deal of anger inside. More than likely it will eventually come to you getting hurt.
Be safe be wise make a good judgement call
remember your instincts what that tells you says alot. you have to roll with your gut instincts on this one.
Does his father do this to his mother. Thats another question you have to ask.
Do you really want to have a life with him when you are that scared
think strongly on this one. you may love him, however I believe he may need help.
So sorry that you have to go through this
2006-10-27 00:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT! RIGHT NOW, WHILE THE GETTING'S GOOD, GET OUT!
You should have been out the first time he raised a hurtful hand to you, be it hitting or strangling or whatever. If it was done in anger and done against you, then get out!
Get out of the situation and the house at least. You don't have to leave him emotionally if you don't want to, just leave him physically.
Suggest he get some serious counseling and an anger management course or three or you're gone for good. If you want, you can even offer to go with him, just take your own car and don't give him a chance to retaliate while you're cooped up in his car and he's in control of it.
If he refuses to get help, then leave him for good, emotionally as well as physically.
2006-10-27 00:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, you shouldn't feel scared within a relationship. I don't know what it will take him doing to get you to admit to yourself that you're in an abusive relationship & that you need to start planning how to get out. There's plenty of helplines & places you can go to assist you. I can tell you now, unless he is really commited to getting help with HIS problem, it will not get any better anytime soon. You will just be dragged more & more into the relationship & he will isolate you more & more from your family & friends. You owe it to yourself to keep yourself safe, I know he's probably squashed any self esteem you had but look deep inside to find something, that shred of strength.
Good luck
2006-10-27 00:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'd get out of that realationship straight away!!!
Unless he gets some serious help, he is not going to change.It'll get worse and worse.
Get out of it now while you can.
It probably hurts heaps, but he'll hurt you more if you don't leave
Becareful about how you do it, let him down gently
If he's really as bad as you say he is, you should watch your back after because he might just try and get you back. Go somewhere where he won't find you until he calms down a bit.
2006-10-27 00:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by sweetangelicnikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart... Get out of there NOW!!!
My boyfriend who I loved dearly, put me in the hospital a number of times before I wised up and left him. I almost died, be beat me so badly.
You have to make the descision on your own to go, no-one can make it for you.
He will never change!
He will never stop his behaviour!
It will only get worse!
PLEASE... pack your bags and go!!!
There are far more decent and caring men out there than him. He does not deserve you at all.
Real men dont dish out physical or emotional abuse. They don't hit, and they dont hurt you!
HE IS NOT A REAL MAN!!!
2006-10-27 00:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be hiding something that's eating him Alive from the inside out...he may have Hypertension high blood pressure and needs to release raw negative energy because of lack of medicine to relieve the pressure,no Man for any reason should call you names and choke you... at all...He should try Effexor...Remember your Beautiful and dont deserve that...not after 4 years.
2006-10-27 00:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by B-Wizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he grew up in a history of violence, but you didn't and shouldn't have to go through this. The "little" things that he's doing now like choking, cursing, and the controlling behavior is only going to get worst the longer you allow it to happen. Either seek counseling for the two of you or get out now.
2006-10-27 00:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out now,this will only increase! People who love never hurt you they only want the best for you! He wants to control you and have you as a possession not love you!
2006-10-27 00:38:43 · answer #11 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋