im currently having an affair with a married man. and a single man too. i prefer the married man since i find him more mature, caring and understanding. should i stop the affair since the single guy wishes to marry me but i dont think he is serious. please help before i make a mistake.
2006-10-27 00:28:49 · 42 answers · asked by fantasy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
absolutely not!!!! no way!!!! under no circumstances!!! it is the best way to screw up your own life that i can think of. you spend all your days worrying who he really cares for even if he gets a divorce. please please trust me. if you dont have trust in a relationship, you have nothing! how do you trust someone that you know for a fact cheats? there is no way that you can build a foundation on anything other than mistrust. that is the very worst feeling in the world and will never go away. so many people treat other people like a car and they just hang in the old relationship until they have replaced it with a new one. usually the reason that a married man gets involved in another relationship is because he has already screwed up bad enough that he cant fix it with his wife. rather than to take responsibility for what he has done, he just gets off the hook by finding someone else. he doesnt look for someone who is credible, hell, he isnt credible. think about what kind of person he pretty much has to get involved with. no self respecting caring person would get involved with someone elses husband anyway. treat others the way you would want to be treated yourself if you were in the same situation. dont make it easy on him either. he is the one breaking huge promises. surely you dont think you are immune to his b.s. and his lies. dont waste your time. this world has plenty of better candidates. do you want to spend special days alone or with a partner? think about it. usually married men are best at one thing....manipulation and lies. not to mention, being cowards.
2006-10-27 00:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by kimpossibly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the affair with the married man. It is wrong, first of all. Second, he only wants sex--he will not divorce and marry you. He does not care for you. He views you as one step above a prostitute--he doesn't have to pay you. As for the single guy, why are you accusing him of not being serious? It seems that you are the one who is not serious--dating him while being used by a married man.........Eventually, you will be dumped by both. So, why don't you do the dumping first and then get your head together and act more maturely.
2006-10-27 00:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by The One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise dating a married man. He is breaking vows he made to his wife. Which is wrong. Even though he may seem caring and understanding what does it say to you that he would cheat on his wife with you? Definitely not mature, caring, and understanding enough to realize his first priority is to his wife. Try to put yourself in the wife's shoes and do you really want to be the other woman? No of course not. Everyone makes mistakes. I would end it with the married man and move on. He is already taken. He is really not worth your time. As to your boyfriend you might want to break that off too if the relationship isn't making you happy. If he is not the guy for you then end it. Wait for the great guy . . . who isn't married . . . that you find mature, caring, and understanding. They are out there. So don't give up.
2006-10-27 00:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by CactusFleur 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you're already making a mistake. First of all, I find it disgusting, with the amount of single people out there, that women(and men) think it's okay to date married people. Mature? Caring? Understanding?? Horseschyt!! He's a cheater. And if he cheats WITH you, he'll cheat ON you.....
But since you are ALSO a cheater(seeing the married guy, and the single guy at the same time), the two of you deserve each other.
What goes around, comes around.....and believe me, it's coming for both of you.
2006-10-27 00:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure the married guy "SEEMS" more mature, caring, and understanding. I will bet he has a line about his wife and how terrible she is. If he was truly all the good things you feel about him then how could he be cheating on his wife?
All of his "GOOD" qualities come from his maturity...he knows exactly how to play you to get what he wants. My guess is you are younger than him, this is stroking his ego among other things.
You are complicit in destroying a relationship and ruining a family. You want to test his love for you, give him 15 days to file for a divorce, no discussion, lay down the law.
He has 15 days to file for a divorce and show you the papers and until then no more booty calls.
My guess is you will be doing something with the single guy for the weekend.
2006-10-27 00:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell ya you are wrong! You are both wrong but since you asked and will tell you what I think! what the hell is wrong with you even asking this question? You need help! This is the most basic common sense answer...apparently you are lacking this so you are asking. Honey go to therapy. For your children's sake! My husband had a little dirty secret snake like you. He made me out to be some beast too, yet the other women never even met me yet made assumptions and tried to ruin my reputation based on faulty facts. I have no respect 4 women like you. How dare do you call yourself a woman of substance? You are a woman of NO substance. A great mother? what? Are you mental? Bringing a married lover and exposing him to your kids is what a BAD mother does. A great mother keeps unavailable men away from her kids. It also sounds like you envy his wife. Don't hate cuz she may be a model and you obviously have low self-esteem considering the **it hole u are in. You can tell by her pictures how she is? Do you always judge a book by its cover? You also believe the lies this man tells you about her. Why is he with her then? He loves her or he would leave. I would rather model on the net half nude if I had the body than sleep with married man and blame the wife for my immoral actions. You are the BAD woman, not the wife. You are poor excuse for a woman! Go to church, you need help! I
2016-03-28 09:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, it has already been such a huge mistake to have an affair with a married man cause even without any religion background or teachings a sensible and mature mind would say it's not a right thing to be done. for us to continue saying it will be in vain unless you yourself know what you want at the end of the day cause needless say more as you are getting all the answers......
2006-10-27 01:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person who has made a solem promise to the person he is suppose to love, breaks that promise, has an affair and can't even be honest abut it to his partner and own up, then why would he not do the same to you? On his part, having an affair displays he is weak of character, has no spirituality or real belief, is totally selfish and has no worth to him. And you call him mature? Sorry but he is far from that. Do yourself a favour and stop the affair. Enjoy what real love is about. Embrace it and nourish it.
2006-10-27 00:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Deejay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Too many hearts will be broken including yours. You could never trust him. He left on woman for you so stop and think. Is there children involved ? Take some time with the single man maybe that can work out. If not there is a lot of fish in the sea. Good luck.
2006-10-27 00:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEFORE...you make a mistake?? lol.....too late....you're in a relationship with a married man...why?? hes mature caring and understanding...do you think his wife could say that...he care about her ...is THAT mature?? wow...you have an interesting way of looking at things...as far as the other guy goes...do him a favour and cut him loose maybe he can find a woman that knows what faithfulness means.
2006-10-27 00:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋