...mother,so straight away theres the IN-LAW conflict.and dont give me fine tuning, thats what you do to a car.When you have sons do you not bring them up accordingly?and then no woman is good enough for their presious little boy.WOMEN break the cycle accept your man for who he IS!!!
2006-10-27 00:22:21 · 18 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love your man, you do accept him for what he is. Except for the snoring .... and leaving the lavvy seat up ..... and not undoing his shirt buttons before putting it in the wash ..... and leaving socks inside out, on the floor ..... and hair in the bath ..... and never helping with housework ....... or cooking a meal ...... and watching the telly every night .... otherwise, great.
2006-10-27 00:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by buttercup 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn now, go out with him see what you are both like together.
If you don't like whats happening you can discuss it but only he will be the one deciding if he will change that habit. I firmly believe that people need to keep an open mind about changing their own manner of lifestyle we all need room for improvement.
Not just males not just females both. There are lessons in life that we all need to learn. We all change in time.
In all probability the habits he may have acquired are something that may have not been appreciated even by his mother but...
the guy did not want to change. Learning from my own boys
I can mention it and state that I don't like it but they are the ones that have to make the changes. Sometimes they don't listen.
Oh the ages are 22 and 20 and they are really different creatures
and I am their mom saying this.
Men think different than women. They don't see the conflict they don't see the reason to be upset. This mom tries believe me.
We all have to make exceptions. Getting upset I have come to realize doesn't make a whole lot of difference in the long run.
Please don't blame the mother for all things that go wrong.
It might be the individual that is difficult. One boy is stubborn the other is easier to deal with . Its not always the Moms fault.
2006-10-27 07:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only reason I can think for women trying to change a man is that some are utter control freaks and would be the type of women who want the moon on a stick, the grass to be blue and the sky to be green.
Another view is, women who try and change men are with the wrong man!
If you need to change him so much, what the hell are you still doing there? HE'S NOT THE ONE FOR YOU.
2006-10-27 07:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women do this, but unfortunately many do. I agree that is a big mistake and the real term for this is "rejection" which means "I'm really gonna love you after I've finished re-creating you".
Now, let's look at the other side of the coin - many men do the same thing to the women in their lives, and the term is still "rejection".
2006-10-27 07:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, you have to accept your man for who he is...
Otherwise you always lie hoping that he will wake up one day and have morphed into that ideal which you fantasise about.
BUT... I am NOT his mother!
And what was acceptible behavoiur in some aspects for her (because he can do no wrong in her glazed eyes) is not acceptible for me. Her and I are two completely different individuals, with different standards and morals. And so , there will always be a few minor habits of his which will frustrate me completely. While she may find his wet towel on the bed amusing, I find it irritable.
His mother will always "baby" him. I want to be his equal...
And if that means i have to attempt to train him and alter some of his behaviour, so that life between us will flow a little easier by removing some frustration...then so let it be!
2006-10-27 07:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you in this, my son (once he is older. lol ) will be the best that a man can be and God save any woman who tries to change him....... but this is also true with the men that try to change the girls. There are always 2 versions of the one question when it is gender orientated.
2006-10-27 07:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well actually, my man was very wound up by his god fearing, prudish, superstitious mother.
I told him to accept her how she was, but be himself. He is now chilled out and i've decided not to have kids. I think the cycles broken. He has two kids and i have to stop him doing the when i was a lad routine! So it's not just us women!
2006-10-27 07:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by brainlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pointless trying to fix or change someone. After all, when you meet them, you are attracted to them for being them, presumably. So, I never have done, or will do, this to the man I'm with.
2006-10-27 08:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women try and mould men because they have so many issues and problems that need to be fixed and wwe do love them for who they are but if there is even a possiblity that they could even slightly be made better we are taking it no questions asked!!!
2006-10-27 07:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by kaila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so damn right why can't a women just accept a man for who he is and if they don't like that then why get involved in the first place
2006-10-27 10:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by nealeyus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋