He slept with another girl when we first started seeing each other,i found a condom in his room last night then he told me. he was very sorry about it, & i do believe him
i really like him & i dont kno what 2 do. when we started seeing each other we had basically said that it wasnt serious but now it is. i was heartbroken, he said he didnt kno why he did it & wanted 2 kno if i felt any differnt about him., i dont think i do. hes the best thing in my life right now. was it just a stupid mistake on his part? i dont kno what 2 do.
2006-10-27 00:03:58 · 8 answers · asked by jd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
heavy stuff. firstly, any mistake is forgiveable, its just the fact of do you WANT to forgive him, and can you then trust him afterwards? Because a realtionship is built on trust and he has lost your trust so he will have to work hard to get it back. if you forgive him - make this clear. You also need to confront him about telling you the whole truth - was it just one girl, was it just that once, etc etc if he's hidden that this whole time he could have been hidding more. just take a few days / weeks to think and dont rush a decision. I think he owes you some time to decide how you feel so dont let him rush you ok. you take care x
2006-10-27 00:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping with someone else is not "a mistake".
A "mistake" is forgetting someone's birthday or raising your voice in an argument. It is not a "mistake" or "accident" when someone cheats on their partner. That is a choice - a conscious decision to betray someone you've made a commitment to.
As for forgiveness, well that is absolutely a matter than only you can decide. Either you feel that you can move on and trust this person, or you don't - but for goodness sake, please don't kid yourself and trivialise what he did as a "mistake".
Her made a conscious decision to betray you and now you need to decide whether you will work through that, put that in your past and carry on with him, or whether to choose more for yourself and choose to find someone who values you more than your current partner.
Good luck!
2006-10-28 23:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a stupid mistake in his part but before you move and on and forgive him you have to make it solid that he isn't doing things all the time or isn't going this to you again I mean the way you write is like you care and love him and you have to make sure he cares about you and love you and ... only you so just make sure.
2006-10-27 07:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by goodquestion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the limitations and weakness of human mind changes, forgiveness will have some meaning. Otherwise it will be simply a joke.
2006-10-27 07:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and come with me. Ican ****** u if u upto 22
2006-10-27 07:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey hes playin u i say give him up now b4 he hurts u ne more
2006-10-27 07:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzy_bubbles_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is not the best. You can do so much better. Leave his cheating butt.
2006-10-27 07:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is forgivable mistake.
2006-10-27 07:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋