I feel very lonely at times. I have a boyfriend and we live together and he is wonderful most of the time. But my friendship areas are lacking. The male friends I have I have been staying away from because I feel that they only like, like me. I just got rid of my bestfriend who was a male but became crazy due to some weird crush he supposedly has had on my for 15 years. I know sounds crazy. My female best friend I got rid of because she was trying to hook up with my fiance in the past. I do not talk to all my other girl friends, I feel that they really do not like me that much. They always say weird bitchy remarks to me. And they call me mostly when they need to talk to someone, they are having a problem, you know need help. When I call them for help they just are not available but they can show up at my house at 6 a.m. waking everyone up because they need to talk to someone. Or they need a FREE place to stay for over a month without contributing a dime but I just asked the
2006-10-26 23:48:21 · 9 answers · asked by Angelcupcake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
asked the so the called friend to look at my computer and he can't even do that but lives in my house for free. What the hell? does anyone ever feel this way?
2006-10-26 23:49:18 · update #1
a lot of these people I have known for many many years so it is hard to break ties with them
2006-10-27 00:05:24 · update #2
and the one girlfriend that I really love is hooked on drugs and I just cannot be around that
2006-10-27 00:20:16 · update #3
hey I can be bitchy also at times (believe me) but when it comes to sharing and stuff I feel that that is what people should do but we also need to learn the line between sharing and being used. To me is so hard.
2006-10-27 00:24:27 · update #4
this guy who calls me his bestfriend just dropped the lawsuit he had on one of my family's businesses and apologizes
I just do not know what to think anymore
2006-10-27 00:51:20 · update #5
do what Lous the 16th of France did:charging people since they were staying at Versailles! same with you! if the only reason that they call you is when they have a problem or showing up at 6 am drunk or whatever which i find unacceptable it is because you let them! first and foremost you friend-the female-knows the rules when it comes to hooking up with your friends's bf ! that is totally unacceptable!your best friend sounds like a weirdo and stalker!one word for you:RUN!!!!!!!!!so, you have a nice combination of weird best friend and someone else trying to steal your man..wow, how did you put up with them and for how long? from the description if things your so called female friend is slut, ***** and has no limits! the best friend knows no limits either! well, here is a nice little idea i had to apply to my life:a) the girlfriends who are making bitchy comments to you, well forget about them!and when they call be busy or dont pick up since they are also using you since no one wants to hear about their lame and pathetic problems!b)the reason they act distant from you and are bitchy is maybe because you have a bf with which you live and agreat love life and they might be jealous because of that!
c)dont call your girlfriends but instead try to get away from this whole drama which is making my head spin! find some new friends which are your real friends unlike the people that you thought were your friends and they turned our to not help you whenever you needed help! find yourself some new girlfriends through your bf's guys-their gf's maybe. the girls that you think are your girlfriends right now i can guarantee you that they are not your true friends or otherwise they would be there for you and not be so mean and jealous! d)make plans with the new friends you have so when your friends ask you out you can tell them off!; e)make it clear that you find it inappripriate for them to show up while you sleep!tell them that this is your place and you have certain rules that if they want to come over they need to follow:make rules that would make your life simpler-ex. no one calls me after 11 pm,no one comes to my house at 6am, if you cannot say anything nice do not say anything at all, etc...=you get the idea! and tell them that if they come and stay with you that is good as long as they chip in from their pocket! make that a straight forward thing and do not be shy since after all you are paying for them too! if they refuse tell them that they can find somewhere else to stay since you are not made of money and you need them to contribute with paying for things! that is the best advice i can give you!
2006-10-27 00:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you are going through. a couple months ago my best friend stopped talking to me and my other close friends live pretty far away. i'm happily married but i was missing having friends to go and do things with i got really upset about it i was starving for friendship and was becoming depressed.
thats when i realized that the girls that i work with kept inviting me out after work for drinks and things like that and i kept putting them off because i was afriad to make new friends and loose them like i have all the others.
so i made a descion the next time they asked i would go and i did and i had fun even though i hate bars and i have made some pretty good friends through work.
my best advice to you is to put yourself out there and see who you can meet the older you get the harder it is to make friends but you have to try. as for the other "friends" you have drop them fast they are taking advantage of you
2006-10-27 07:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those people feel they can take advantage of you every single time. because YOU DONT KNOW HOW TO SAY NO. It is time to stand up for yourself and let them know how you feel. You need to command respect once in a while. Start by kicking that guy out of your house. Choose your REAL FRIENDS who will be there through thick and thin.
2006-10-27 06:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by goodnatured69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
You seem very generous and kind, also stressed out.
Dont blame ya, most of them are using you in my oppinon and i think you need to find some new friends.
You care about them but they are only looking out for themselves.
I recommed you get out alot and find some more great friends
2006-10-27 06:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Fancy_shit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with a professional counselor. There are a lot of issues here you may not be aware of. Your family doctor can probably recommend a counselor if you don't know one.
Good luck.
2006-10-27 06:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK to feel lonely this is not a bad thing as for your friends it takes a friend to be a friend so count your self lucky anybody wants to have you as their friend stop feeling sorry for your self
2006-10-27 06:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you are just too nice a person
and people are taking advantage of you.
I think you should get you spine back
and straighten it out,and make it stronger
it also sounds to me that your b/f does not
fill all his abligations to you as a woman
you need more from your man,quiet walks
holding hands, hugging. just being there for you.....
2006-10-27 06:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by rottentothecore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a door mat for every one stand up and take controll of your life if you want a good friend find one and maintain that do not have one million friends who can not be there for you its better to have one than millions
2006-10-27 07:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by alfa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your own fault for not putting your foot down. You have to stand up for yourself!
2006-10-27 06:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋