i have been with my bf for just over a year and he is lovely treats me like a princess and everything the only problem is he isnt into going out and partying and im only 18 so thats wat i want!!
recently my mum dumped my dad for his ex best mate so my dad moved to hastings to stay with his brother i have visited a lot and love it down there the night life is really fun!!
and i met this guy who is just like my bf but likes to party and i have a huge crush on him, i dont wana break my boyfriends heart but this other guy really likes me too.
i have spoken to my bf about it and he just gets upsets and begs me to stay and how much it would destroy him and how he will never have a girl agen, i feel like im guilted into staying. i wana be young and have fun i feel like i have settled down at 18 it wud be really hard to break up with him cos i do love him i just think we got together too soon.
if you were in my situation what wud u do??
please help!!
2006-10-26 23:19:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would never cheat on anyone im not like that. and u people are awfully harsh cant help the way i feel didnt do this on purpose!!
2006-10-26 23:35:02 · update #1
mystery guest - stop being a dick im 18 and want to have some fun how does that make me immature?
2006-10-26 23:36:21 · update #2
First of all forget about the advice that these immature people have given you.
My opinion is that don't let a guy compromise who you are. Don't take it out of context because it can ruin everything. I would tell you to have a talking with your man and tell him that at the moment you want to enjoy life and he does not allow you to do that and that you gonna need time away from each other. If it is meant to be then love will bring you guys back together again. I am 22 and I am in the exact position. I love to dance and I love to club. The bf however, thinks otherwise. He does not want to go clubbing so he suggested that I dance for him. Which I am happy to comply with. I get to do what I want to and at the same time he gets to benefit from it because it is just for him. So you see, to be in a relationship is all about compromise. How you go about it is what makes it work. So sit down with your man and talk about how you can come to a solution. Don't start pointing fingers and don't come to the conclusion that you guys should break up. The key is to come together to solve this. If you should need any more advice check out my 360 or annelize-sexylee600.blogspot.com. Keep well.
2006-10-26 23:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great to have a boyfriend who loves you and treats you well, but considering your age, 18 years old, you should have some fun, i don't mean party all the time but go out, meet people and just enjoy been 18. Your boyfriend seems like he hasn't got confidence to meet other people, maybe he isn't very sociable. You are too young to sit home and do whatever you two are doing together. It's not nice he is bagging you to stay, it's quite silly and trust me he will survive and will have girlfriend even if it doesn't work our between you two. What a lot of drama at this age! sorry but it has to be said
2006-10-26 23:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ingrid 7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you already know what to do... you just want a second appinion huh?.. you said yourself that "i am madly in love" with your bf!! hello.. you in love with the guy you're with. so stay with him of course.. never take advantage of what you have.. its always better to keep what you know you have then to exchange it for a mystery box.. if you know what i mean.. you never now what will happen if you go with another guy and if you do you will ruin what you have now.. you lovehim stay with him.. your ex crush. is just that.. your EX crush ok.. plus he had the nerve to say he hated you.. thats harsh .. and im sure with a statement like that he surely doesnt love you more then the girl he is with.. or that would never came out his mouth.. he just might be getting bored with his girl. and want to change.. and because of the past he believes you still like him... and he thinks you are a sure thing.. so prove him wrong and tell him no.. that you dont like him anymore.. and that your in love already with a great man. cause he must be if you love him.. and this entire time you have had a great friend thats a boy and he thought he could be more then friends.. and has been trying to while you thought you jsut friends.. so wht you need to do is be sure to clarify with him that you two will only be friends.. and that you adore his friendship and love him as a brother.. and that you can never be more then friends.. he needs to know this so he can move on and try to get a girl that will actualy love him back... even after you tell him this he will still think he has a chance with you for a while.. but hopefully he will come to understand shortly... goodluck and i hope it all works out for you.. dr icebreaker
2016-03-28 09:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him but you are already talking about another guy? Reverse the situation, how would you feel? Break it off with your boyfriend now, before you start two timing, at least have a little respect for your boyfriend if you really love him! If you keep dating your boyfriend, this situation will only end in disaster.....
2006-10-26 23:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going out and partying is something that you will out grow. finding someone that loves you and someone you can connect with is truly rare and if they don't enjoy everything that you do it's not unhealthy for couples to do things apart. the things that you think you are missing out on by being attached may be things better missed out on.
on the flip side of that you can't do anything about the way that you feel. you're feelings are out of your control and you should never be sorry about them. guilt can't keep you in a realationship
2006-10-26 23:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your question and I guess the onlything to do is to talk about it when your bf is in the right mood. Some guys are shy and that is their nature. You only need to gradually convince him as well as reducing your own love for partying to that which he would be able to cope with.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 23:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i werw you, I'd move out and go pparty hardy, because your only 18. I think your bf is using that old line that he will never get another girl f to keep you from leaving . your bf is a real stick in the mud.
2006-10-26 23:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by meerkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i view relationships as a serious thing, and i understand what you mean. have you thought of this? are you willing to give up on your bf just for partying, if you say you love him.. ? you should think it all over before making final decisions. if you think that your bf doens't make you happy anymore then you should let him go. i know he will understand. also, everyone of us stumbles.. and if he does, in some ways he'll find a way to stand up again...
2006-10-26 23:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that ! Live for YOURSELF! You are young, you dont even have to date exclusively. You are only gonna be 18 once in your life, live it up! Party HARD (but safe) and do what YOU think is right for YOU!
Peace & Good Luck !
2006-10-26 23:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Falling to pieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important about your boy friend is, he loves you so much. In a relationship love what should be there.
He treats you as princess.
But he do not like party. As you are his lover you should consider this.
you also have respect what he like or dislike
thank you
2006-10-26 23:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by bangla answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋