I started seeing this woman on a casual basis 15 months ago and with no expectations our relationship has grown into a very happy one. She a dancer and looks atleatst 10 years younger. I find her attractive, funny and a real great person. Iam 28 and she is 37. All my friends and family keep reminding me that later in life this will be a problem and I cant help wondering if this is true. I know that love is important but certainly one must atleast plan and have a fague idea what you want in life. Although I would like to be dad one day I know that personally iam not ready for anything like that for atleast the next 5+ years of my life. Because of all these things there is now unwanted strain on the relationship as I know that she needs to be with someone that can be seriously committed to her. Iam at a crossroad as its hard for me to let her go as we get along so well. How do u know if someone is the one anyway? Can anyone offer some advice?
2006-10-26 23:14:29 · 28 answers · asked by wil-tell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she was the one then you would know but unfortunately she is not because you have doubts.
2006-10-27 07:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off friend, don't let your family get into your relationship. You are almost 30 years old, you should be the man and know what you want. You are not 18, 19, and 20 anymore and haven't been for awhile. If this woman makes you happy and you make her happy, why not keep to her and be with her? You might have to commit because she is just a little older but not by much. I would suggest making you mind up now because life is TOO short to be sitting around at almost 30 and not knowing how to be the man in your relationship. Step up to the plate and take a swing for a few home runs and maybe you'll get a grand slam. Best of wishes to you and your nice lady friend.
2006-10-26 23:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say a 10 year age gap is probably the most common set up in serious long term relationships , you may never live to worry about "later in life" and besides women tend to out last men .
The only issue that you should both give thought to is children , 42 is when most docs start refusing women help in conceiving kids and I'm sure there are reasons (kids have been conceived much later in life but there are risks involved)
Parenthood should not be rushed into , but then neither should it be denied , try to take a look at your relationship as if you were someone else , does she have a parental influence over you despite being your partner ? if so your along way off being ready to bear children and she doesn't have the time to wait .
If not go for it friends and family are great but you cannot find the security and comfort you need by knowing they care for you , we all need someone to share our live's with
I hope it works out good luck
2006-10-26 23:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a couple of older guys at least 10 years older than I. Some were really great, others were horrible about the same as guys I've dated around my age. I don' think the relationship's last because of the difference in thinking, I think older guys like the fact they can still attract older women, but older women are more what they want because they can relate better. Older women who date younger men, those relationships do well because women adjust better to different situations. (as long as they don't try to be a "mom") Just my opinion here, but this was a very good question. Take care.
2016-05-22 00:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its love that there is between you her, you can say what you feel, but see what she actually feels. The fact that she is 37- almost 40, its wakward not like shes 32. I cant actually explain. I mean if she want to have kids, she needs to be less than 40. otherwise certain complcations arize. Even when woman exceed 30 years, there can be complicationos, let alone...And you are not ready yet for such a thing
It would be best to talk to her, tell her what you feel, and the problems that already seem to arize.
I think she a little old for you.
2006-10-26 23:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
enjoy the moment.. donot think too much about age n all.. u r not ready to be commited, thats is ok.. but is she also ready..? if she wants a family then i guess you both can decide what is best for you two.. becasue if she has to wait for another 5-6 yrs it might be too late for her to start a family...
Age may not be the only factor which is causing strain in your relationship, maybe it is uncertain future of your relationship which is emerging clearly day by day is the main culprit behind it..
i guess, all depends on what and how much and to what extent you really like her and how badly u want to be with her...
all the best...
2006-10-26 23:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by hi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it, its great. I am 33 and my girlfriend is 49. I had the same issues as you at the start, but we have been together for close to 2.5 years and its still good.
Just like you, I am fortunate that she doesnt look her age. At the start I was quite embarassed about the whole age gap thing, especiually as she was leaving school the year I was born, but over time its become easier and I hardly see the age gap anymore.
Enjoy.
2006-10-26 23:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know someone is the one when you cant stand being apart or when you are apart that is the one person you think of the most. your relationship with this lady, age shouldnt matter, yes she is looking for a committment now, she feels if she waits any longer ,it will be too late, you really need to sit down and think what matters the most in your life and what your goals are, if they dont match hers, you need to let go so she can find someone that is ready now and when you are ready you will hopefully find someone too.
2006-10-26 23:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by paki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same type of relationship with my girlfriend being 16 years older than me and i also want children but not for at least 8-10 years....this might prove a problem but I do love her...what must be must be, if you talk about it and can and know that you want to be with her then what must be must be....
2006-10-26 23:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by Quintus T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you to decide, but as a medical aside, I had my first child aged 40, my second aged 43 and my third aged 45 and had no trouble conceiving at all. Not all females fall pregnant as easily as I did though, no matter what their age.
2006-10-30 03:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 32 is far too old to have kids for you let alone for the lady --- too high a probability of genetic problems
stop worrying about people's comments -- the facts are that ladies live longer than men anyway --- so you are ideal
if you both enjoy each others company and want to keep together then do so let the future take care of itself
2006-10-26 23:19:49 · answer #11 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋