We've long term relationship for 5 years. I decideded to move on if there's no commitment from him. So I went out with another guy which I told my boyfriend so. I also told my boyfriend that I would like to end the 5 years relationship with him coz he did not contribute anything to the relationship. That's when he proposed me and promised that he would divorce his wife. Should I believe him or should I move on?
2006-10-26 22:47:28 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-26 22:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it always takes a while for a woman to get wiser. I know from 6 and a half years of experience with the wrong guy. Run, don't walk, in the opposite direction of this man. Unless you want to have more of "he didn't contribute anything to the relationship".
And...don't forget, he cheated on his wife, who he promised to be faithful to, with you. What makes you think he changed and if you two were married, he wouldn't find someone new to cheat with on you? He has a good, strong pattern established there. Whether you see it this way or not, he is already a liar. He has been lying to his wife by being with you. The five years you spent is a learning experience. Sometimes we women have to go through this sort of stuff to become wiser to the ways of the world. You have now graduated from the cheating husbands university with a diploma. Go forth and get a real and a solid life. You can do it. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other until you are far far away from him.
2006-10-26 22:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girlfriend, if he hasn't divorced his wife by now (after 5 years) then you can forget about it. You are just something on the side for him. That's why he can't contribute any thing either. That's why everything has to be at his convenience, only see him when he gets the chance, I'm glad that your moving on, you just wasted 5 years of your life. Good luck with this new romance.
2006-10-27 00:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he isn't really available to you since he is married.. His priority is his family, his wife so in many ways yes you should move forward in your life. As well find someone that is single, to give you really what you deserve. A true commitment filled with true feelings. If your relationship with your current married man was to move forward, he would already be separated from his wife (divorce paperwork filed and even then I wouldn't date him until after the divorce was final)
Tons of hugs from Mel (http://www.youtube.com/ssgluceywife)
2006-10-26 22:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello? Any real people out there?
Do yourself and your life a fabour - MOVE ON WITHOUT HIM. He didn't contribute to the relationship so why go for someone that clearly has no feelings of commitment for you? The only reason he's actually proposed to you is because he wants to use you as a scape goat to "get out of his marriage".
Think about it cos it makes sense!
2006-10-26 23:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe him but if you really love him don't move on either!!! Tell him that he has 2 months at most to show you the devorce papers that he and his wife sighed!!!
Other wise he never has to come back to you cause then you don't want nothing to do with him any further!!!
But don't exept the marriage proposal until he shows you the papers and the devorce is in the proses!!!
Good Luck!
2006-10-26 22:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was going to do that he would have already. A man is not going to wait 5 years to be with someone that he loves. Sorry' but you are being made a a-s-s of. When guys do things like this it's just sex to them.
2006-10-26 23:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, he'll divorce his wife, right after the pigs fly out of your a$$ !!! If he cheats with you, he'll cheat ON you. And the fact that you knew he was married, and still carried on with him for 5 years makes you lower than whale sh!t, as well.
2006-10-27 00:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men rarely leave their wives for a mistress you have given him 5 years and he hasn't had to leave her. it's wishful thinking on your part to think that he will now and even if he dose how can u trust him not to do the same thing to u? if he cheated on her he will cheat on you, it's a harsh reality but uf you were the woman that could truly change him to a one woman man he would have left her years ago
2006-10-26 23:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL How silly!!! Somebody proposing to somebody while their wife sits at home!! LOL What a hoot!!! OBVIOUSLY, this guy is not going to leave his wife. How can you not see that?? Move on!
2006-10-26 22:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on
2006-10-26 22:53:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋