Signs=attraction, flirting, going out constantly(only together), in contact practically every day (2 month break over summer,live in different towns), tell each other everything, both single since we met (she had a casual fling for a month, but ended it after speaking too me, when I visited her), significant? Gets jealous when I mention other girls, always (90%) gets in touch first, says she never pulls when out, says she don’t fancy anyone etc
Kissed once only, remained close friends since but still do everything above.
P.s. has been acting weird recently (feeling down,tired,can't approach other blokes) towards me recently, gone cold, quiet, not saying much-didn't have argument/falling out. Why?
2006-10-26 22:39:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The last time she opened up, she told me that:1)She cares about me a lot,2)thinks about me a lot,3)can only open up fully to me (no one else), also told me many personal stuff from her past 4)really enjoys spending time with me (one on one),5)she only wants to txt me at certain times,i.e after a long day/travelling home. When I told her I felt the same (as above), she said she don't see me in that way and nothing more would happen! Couldn’t give a reason why not-
Would 6 months be too long? Am I wasting my time? Anyway to find out once and for all?--talking don't help, as she says nothing there.
Asking AGAIN, as I've met someone and there could be a possibility for more, should I close this door for good? If I go quiet for a week(no replies to txts) wud she feel offended?What wud she think?
2006-10-26 22:39:59 · update #1
Sit down with her and tell her that you want to be with her and if she says no then let her know you wont chase her anymore that you will be moving on...I really do think she likes you but is just afraid..but I can understand why you are fed up because she is acting like a c ock teaser.
2006-10-27 07:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you have ever wanted from your relationship is to take it to another level then you have no choice but to explain how you feel that is only if you can face losing her friendship .
If you are happy enough to continue as friends then i would .. because if you are meant to be together then eventually it will happen .
I personally would txt her .. tell her how i felt .. then leave it .. dont txt her again untill she contacts you
good luck to you both .. remember dont let her use you as an emotional crutch when things arnt going her way .. you have a right to have a loving relationship if its nt with her then somone else
xx
2006-10-26 23:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by kirsty d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl myself i no that once shes put you in the 'friend and nothing more stage' theres no chance, it sounds to me like shes just keeping you hanging as she probably doesn't want anyone else to have you and I'm saying that as i did exactly the same! If you've found some one else i say go for it, theres not enough time in the world to wait around for someone who keeps giving you the cold shoulder. Or give her an ultimatum tell her you've met someone else- she'll either buck up her ideas and come to you or tell you where to go-at least you will no where you stand. And on the going cold part she might have met someone else but doesnt want you to no, as i've said i did exactly the same.
2006-10-26 22:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by babie v 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just feeling rejected if you didn't kiss her and ask her out - if a guy wouldn't kiss me on a first date there wouldn't be a second, and if I told someone personal stuff abot my past I'd be thinking marriage - I was in a relationship for almost nine years, and my ex still didn't know intimate details from my past - also, can you really be friends with a member of the opposite sex - unless they are completely unattractive? What are you waiting for - she's already made the first move, or two, or three, what do you want her to do - whip all your clothes off and carry you off to her bedroom?
2006-10-27 00:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see she does not want to make the first move or feels something for you but don't wanna be anything more cause she is scared that you friendship will be ruined if you had something more than just friendship!!
I suggest that you ask her out and have some dinner and tell her how you feel ask her if she can consider going out as a couple on a few dates and just c if things will work out!!!!
Good Luck!!
2006-10-26 22:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this ,but I think you are wasting your time with this woman.She obviously only thinks of you as a friend and is possibly trying to disassociate herself from you,without being completely ruthless about it.I would see it for what it was(a harmless bit of flirting with someone she could trust)and now let it go and concentrate on finding love and friendship with a new partner.Don`t live in the (may have been world)live life today with someone new,life is too short to wonder what people are about.My own son fell in love with a girl who only ever saw him as a friend and the torment I saw him go through was awful.He just became her agony aunt and a shoulder to lean on whenever she needed him and when she thought he might desert her,she would start being interested and flirting with him,which just gave him false hope all over again.Don`t let this carry on with this girl.Some women only want this kind of relationship and will carry on using men in this way.
2006-10-27 00:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by AMANDA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun if she likes u then go for it ask her out for a drink tell her how u feel if she dosent feel the same then u know there is nothing better then to hear it from the girls own mouth and also it stops u from being left in the dark u should like a nice bloke and there are plenty of girls out there good luck x
2006-10-26 22:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by natalie r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always the guys who have to make the move.
Ask her that you want her to be your girl. Straight and direct.
If she doesn't sound that interested, tell her you'll give her time, and wait for her calll.
If she doesn't call you in a week, txt her and tell her you got the message clear, and she'll be a good friend of yours.
And than, move on to that next girl.
Simple!
2006-10-26 22:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say talking is no good tell her you have met someone else and if shes really not interested you are going to ask the other girl out explain to her you cant wait forever good luck maybe the thought of losing you will help her decide what she wants
2006-10-26 22:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe ring and tell her that you have met someone nothing has happened as you have feelings for but if she only wants to be friends with you, say your respect that, but if she says she wants more than you have your answer. Good luck.
2006-10-26 22:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Wim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋