It seems I have hit an eternal case of bad luck. Ever since January or so the guys I meet tell me initially that they are looking for a relationship ( so- they treat me with the out most respect and courtesy), after I sleep with them ( which is typically a month wait), they begin to slowly withdraw from the idea of being in a committed relationship, and take on the role of " friends with benefits". What gives?..is it my fault, or their nature?
btw here is my myspace in case anyone wants to talk further, or draw more elaborate conclusions: http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=10641266
2006-10-26 22:37:02 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it's bad luck
2006-10-26 22:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gnanu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Story of my life!!! I decided to just not sleep with anybody again PERIOD until I get some kind of commitment, and not a verbal commitment!! It has to be in the form of a document or a ring! I have no idea why guys are like this. But I think the great majority of guys will take the "scenic route" to get what they want, by saying they want a relationship, etc. Guys are famous for being able to do this. I hope your luck changes soon. My advice would be not to sleep with them at all and just see what happens. If they leave, they're asses.
2006-10-27 05:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear you! i had the same problem-friends with benefits-sleeping with the guys! i think that the guys are scared of committing to go out with one girl and they just like to play the field!my best advice is not to sleep with the next guy you like or are dating and see where it goes from there! if a guy is a gentleman he will understand that you do not want to sleep with him and he will not expect that from you after one month's worth of dating since ytou two barely know each other and that would not feel right!take it slow and do not let yourself be pressured into sleeping with a guy, since you can just walk away!
2006-10-27 05:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest way to see if the guy wants a relationship is not have sex --- let them know up front so you dont waste your time with losers
no its not your fault --- its the nature of the male
2006-10-27 05:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I don't know how old you are but don't feel as though you have to sleep with every guy you like , maybe they're testing you , don't make it so easy !! Maybe you' d get more respect
2006-10-27 05:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by hasenbeneasy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want sex before marriage, treat it like a game and have all the fun sex you want and dont expect a relationship.
If you want a commited relationship, dont have sex until you are married.
2006-10-27 05:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that you have to go through that but there are men out there only for one thing but believe when i say there are good men and you will meet a guy who wants you for you and not for sex so hang in there.
i know its going to be hard but just tell them up front that your wanting more then sex...
2006-10-27 05:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Rockstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sleep with any guy till u hav known his true intentions. If he wont wait till u r ready then leave him bcoz he aint th one for u!
2006-10-27 05:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by smart_eluh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm....I think ıt's just a bad luck,you couldn't find a decent guy yet...You will ,don't worry ,best of luck!
2006-10-27 05:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont sleep with them, then you know if they want you for you, or a romp between the sheets... a MONTH is all you wait? hmmmmm
2006-10-27 05:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Aunt Mair á?¦ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋