i really like him & i dont kno what 2 do. when we started seeing each other we had basically said that it wasnt serious but now it is. i was heartbroken, he said he didnt kno why he did it & wanted 2 kno if i felt any differnt about him. i dont think i do. hes the best thing in my life right now. was it just a stupid mistake on his part? i dont kno what 2 do.
2006-10-26 22:29:18 · 23 answers · asked by jd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i found a condom in his room then he told me. he was very sorry about it,
2006-10-26 22:38:48 · update #1
He will do it again! Don't trush him !
2006-10-26 22:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want in a relationship? If you want a long term relationship leading towards marriage then maybe there is a need to ask questions that will help level where he is at concerning commitment and a great friendship with you. Questions such as: What would he do to be committed to you? Does he see his actions in a reverse situation i.e. if it were you that did or behaved the way he is towards you what would be his response? Does he see life from both sides (you and him) or just from his perspective? Let him know that you are willing to trust him and work with him and that you want a great friendship that will lead to a great relationship. Be creative and try one new thing a day or a week (excluding sex because it is not new and takes very little effort to partake in and messes up real friendship) e.g. walking, discover a new aspect of something about each other, games, hobbies and interests, one new thing you like doing together (again excluding sex because most people like doing that after a while loses its flavour) etc. Be accountable.
2006-10-26 22:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by spirit79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Yes and no.... it is a stupid mistake on his part, but it depends on the exact situation of your relationship when you first started seeing each other.
Was there any clear understanding (not assumption) that you were only seeing each other casually? If so, then casual is exactly that - either of you could sleep with anyone. If not, then he probably assumed it was - personally I would not sleep with another girl if I had just started seeing someone, but everyone's mentalities and morales are different.
If you have truly deep feelings for him, and can forgive him (it's far more important than forgetting), then tell him how you feel in your heart and move on together. If you can't forgive him, then you can't continue as it will eat up inside you - I've been there...
You need to sit yourself down and think about how you feel inside. Do this alone, as only you can accurately influence your actions and decisions - having someone else as a sounding board often brings bad advice.
Think, decide, and act.
If I can be of any further help, please don't hesitate to contact me.
2006-10-26 22:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Barry W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheeeeeeeeesh, don't you know anything, this is about self preservation. A young man can die of internal drowning if he doesn't unload regularly, the build up of male fluids can be very dangerous and if not milked regularly all manner of ill effects can befall him. All he did was release those pent up fluids so as to be there for you in the weeks, months and years ahead. Your selfishness and lack of care could have caused him a premature end. Be more thoughtful and take better care of this fine young man. You could have been on a womanslaughter charge, thank him for being so thoughtful as to save you a long encarceration.
2006-10-26 22:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi JD
Well if this was at the start of your relation ship then i would let it go. It sound now that you two are meant to be together. Not many guys would Tell you that they had slept with someone else. So stay with him as you really like him and hope all works out
2006-10-26 22:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like there is nothing you can do, you both said it wasnt serious and i think if the shoe was on the other foot, he wouldnt be asking the question you just asked.
You said that now its serious so if it happens now its another story, why are you bringing it up now anyway?
2006-10-26 22:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is ok as long as now that you two a serious you understand that you cant sleep with anyone else. if it was the start of the relationship then he may not have know if anything was going to happen. forgive him and if he does it again get rid of him.
2006-10-26 22:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never a mistake. he wasnt serious about you and didnt expect your relationship to last long so he was keeping his options open.
2006-10-26 22:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by rayking19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater and still he's the best thing that ever happened to you. Girlfriend, you deserve every bit of the misery that's coming your way.
2006-10-26 23:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since nothing was serious at the time of the "cheating", i would say forgive him. Also, things must be really serious if he told you about it. He really cares for you
2006-10-26 22:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Moving_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The concern only should come after he is serious with you. Before is past.. should not be taking into picture.
2006-10-26 22:34:54 · answer #11 · answered by Mrjjvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋