My ex-girlfriend is pregnant with our little one. I don't know if I should go back to her so I can always be there. We planned on having one a long time ago and figures when we end it she is prego. Need some very helpful advice right about now.
2006-10-26 22:07:32 · 15 answers · asked by josh l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm, difficult situation. I don't think you should go back to her for her. You broke up for a reason, and that reason or those reasons will not vanish once the little one comes. So you would not be happy together.
The problem is, happiness is very important to a child. A child needs a stable home to grow up in, and when you are together you can't offer that, because you are not together to be stable together, but to raise that child. I admire your will to be there for the baby, and probably for her to, to support her in her time of pregnancy and childbirth. I think it's best to be there for her and the baby as much as you can, and to make good arrangements for that. Write them down, and keep your promises. Try to be good parents, even though you can't be parents in the same house. Good luck with it.
2006-10-26 22:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jaco K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why you guys split in the first place...( and your positive that the baby is yours)
You could still be a dad and not be with the mom. People do that all the time.
If you guys split on good terms then I dont see why you can't just be the dad and not have to go back with your ex. You shouldn't feel obligated to be with her, but you are obligated to be a dad.
If you think that you guys could work it out, try it again...but if not, don't feel like you have to stay in a relationship just because your going to become a father. It's better to have two good parents that aren't 'together' than to have two parents that live together but don't get along. Hope this helps....
2006-10-26 22:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am just reading into this a little to much, but its sounds like your holding resentment towards the fact that she is pregnant. Believe me I could be wrong in saying that.. but with that said. A pregnancy doesn't warrant a relationship between the two parents, but it does require a friendship, a partnership and understanding (a form of a team) to raise this blessing. Be a great dad, always there and open.
Tons of hugs from Mel (http://www.youtube.com/ssgluceywife)
2006-10-26 22:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! dont go back with her for the baby because an ex is an ex for a reason and you can be just a good dad being apart than being with her and going back to old ways eventually.
if you do decide to get back with her i wish you all the luck in the world and hope it works out for you all. :-)
2006-10-26 22:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by xxSHORTYxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying together purely for the sake of the child is rarely a gift to the child, the same strife remains.
I think it is better that you share responsibility and support each other as Parents, but not try to make a failed relationship work for someone else.
You can be there for your child, you needn't be there for his/her mother. That is your choice.
2006-10-26 22:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think pregnancy is a good reason to just go back with someone.. If the relationship is done it's done. But at least be a man and support the kid.
You can be there for the kid without being with her.
2006-10-26 22:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is what happens when people have sex before they are married...i think this is very stupid, EVERYONE DONT HAVE SEX UNLESS YOU'RE MARRIED...sorry to say man, but this is a problem and the child should be with both of you now, you should both take care of the child...basically you have to stay together for the baby...
2006-10-26 22:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by Valencianista 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be there for your girlfriend and the little one! You have that responsibility to them both!
2006-10-26 22:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY AND GET BACK WITH HER TO SEE HOW THINGS GO NOW THAT SHE IS PREGNANT. BUT IF IT DON'T WORK JUST LET HER KNOW THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THEIR FOR YOUR CHILD AND THAT YOU WOULD WANT TO BE HER FRIEND BECAUSE YOU WOULDN'T WANT YOUR CHILD TO GROW UP AND SEE THAT YOU PEOPLE DON'T GET ALONG.
2006-10-26 22:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by SexXyBaCK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is at all possible then go back to her. You will NEVER love anyone more than your little one. Just wait until you see them, you'll see.
2006-10-26 22:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by Brother Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋