I've started going out with a girl. I'm not happy for some reason though, I feel really flat and it's only 2 weeks in. I'm good looking, and she is phenominal, I mean, she is a spitting image of Imogen fron Big Brother. She's one of 5 girls working in a 50 man office, all rich young men in the City, which I am too, but still it's not great knowing she's being hit on all day, which she is. She's a wild child, wheras I'm quite reserved.... sex is fantastic, she's adventurous, she does things to me that'd make your eyes water, and I must admit we're very compatable in that area, BUT I just feel like she's a fcuk buddy rather than my girlfriend. Should I go out with her? or look for happiness? I know some might say only i can answer that but I just need advice ...
2006-10-26 21:52:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hell yeah,,partner,,
2006-10-26 21:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been out with a guy because he was extreemly rich, had a huge interenational company, adventurous, great taste in food, loves me so much...but I didn't "love" him as much, so I left him in 3 months.
If you know that you're not in love with her, (meaning falling for her) even in the first few weeks, I think that's not right.
Make a list of things you like about her. If there are only "looks" and "sex" in the list, and nothing like "kindness", "sweetness" and something that'll make you feel smile even if you're not even talking to each other...
Leave her right now cuz you are wasting your time.
2006-10-27 06:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really feels you two are a strong couple and her feelings are deeper for you then you should break it up because the relationship wont last based on physical attraction and she will end up feeling used.
At the start it is good to have such a physical relationship and all you want to do is hit the sack but what about if her looks change? and you dont feel nothing for her? you dnt want to spend the rest of your life with some one like that? you can find someone with the whole package. xx
2006-10-27 05:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you mean by right; is this a moral question?
There is no right and wrong with this question. If you are going out with this girl based purely on her looks then maybe this says something about you.
Clearly you already know the answer if you dont feel fulfilled. By all means, keep having sex with her but i think you know she isn't 'the one' for you.
Good luck sir, i would do the same thing :D
2006-10-27 04:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Connell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you've answered your own question - what good is having a stunner on your arm if she doesnt fulfill your other needs?
Ok shes a good shag - but how do you know your next girlfriend wont be even better?
If you're feeling this way about it now - its gona get worse as time goes on so I say cut your losses now and get out of it. Just coz you're feeling this way doesnt mean she is - and the longer you spend with her - the more emotionally involved she will get and you'll end up hurting her more in the long run. xx
2006-10-27 05:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only two weeks, it should be the most exciting time of all...I'd re-assess the situation to be honest.
My partner of 5 years, whom I have two children with, met me in a bar, and was instantly attracted because of my looks. We then had sex (not on the same night obviously!!) and he was then attracted to that...I think my personality was a serious after thought, but luckily (for him!!), it was a good personality, and we made it a long term thing.
2006-10-27 05:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you really asking because you know the answer your not happy so the sex is not even good enough to keep you happy cut it off before feelings get to deep and find somebody you can love respect and have awsome passionate sex with
2006-10-27 05:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by snaggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow if a relationship develops then so be, but for the moment at least your having great sex!
2006-10-27 04:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by reeeeco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur head is saying one thing and your heart is saying another i would say to myself am i happy if the answer is no then u know what to do u cant be with someone if it makes u unhappy u only live once and wheather she is gawgus and good in bed or not ur happiness is most important good luckx
2006-10-27 05:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by natalie r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go out with her she sounds really into you, dont worry about the men in her office if she wanted them wouldnt she be with them by now?? Stop worrying and enjoy your great relationship which you cant see....!
2006-10-27 04:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no yuo should not just go out with a girl for looks because they might look good but have a really crap personality this could be why you are feeling so flat.
2006-10-27 04:56:45 · answer #11 · answered by charlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋