this is in follow up of my first question 'do u think he really loves me?" I told all those things to myself before like "what life is waiting for me with this man" but nothing changed. i was almost suicidal and i wanted to quit my job and get lost go to a place where i would be able to forget, i tried hard to let go, to forget him but the more i struggle with it the more i love him. Guys tell me honestly, do you think i'm losing my mind? anybody who would be kind enough to slap me hard enough to awaken me. If i could rip my heart out and change it i would have done. Hey just tell me if i am really insane!
2006-10-26 21:40:07 · 11 answers · asked by angel blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not insane hun - I've been going through the same feelings over a girl. It's been driving me nuts for about 5 years! She's all I want in life and I've often wondered when people say everyone has their perfect soulmate out there, if I'm the only person who's met them but can't be with them. I guess a time comes when you have to move on in life though which isn't easy. The best route would be to not see that person anymore but that isn't an option for me - i work with her.
Hope things work out for you soon hun, but i guess we both really have to move on now.
xxx
2006-10-26 21:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite refreshing in one way that being you sound well above average mentally and you are not unintelligent. Your problem not that I blame you is simply you do not know what love is. If you heard of a woman being knocked about and she stayed put in that relationship and when asked she said, "he said sorry and swore it will never happen again" but it had time and time again, yet she said "I love him", what would you think. Well, honey, whether it is physical abuse or mental, bashing you up emotionally is not very loving. Kindly tell me or better yourself, is 'loving' someone who doesn't love you healthy ? Where can it lead ? Then ask yourself, am I worthy of being treated better than this. People can only treat you as you allow them to treat you, to hang around even emotionally getting slapped in the face, is not good for your self worth. And just to be a smart ***, moving geographically does not take you away from you. Stop, what has been has been and cannot be changed, if there is something to be learnt from this experience, then carry that with you and that should be, deep down in all honesty you knew, your instincts screamed out to you DANGER yet you made your excuses and like a lemming you ran headlong over that cliff edge. Your instincts told you not to go there yet you had to go there nevertheless. Listen to your instincts, it is God whispering in your ear.
2006-10-26 22:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Your OK. We don't get to choose who we fall in love with.
I once had the same feelings. I couldn't sleep so I had a hard time working. All I thought about was her and how much she could hurt me but I still loved her at the same time. You can believe me when I tell you I wished I was never born.
You can also believe me when I say the painful, empty feeling in your guts will go away. I didn't think it would but it did a few months after she was gone.
It will for you too...I promise
2006-10-26 21:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Brother Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT insane and you are going through something that every young woman and man goes through when love is in the air or in the heart and then it get's ripped away. You'll be okay, and I hope that you get some sense knocked into you the right way.
2006-10-26 21:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to do something that consumes you and gets your mind off this relationship. Tomorrow you look for someone needy (whether they need your kindness, help, attention, assistance...) and you start doing for others. Call a friend or an older relative and see if they need anything and you keep doing this day after day until you get past this stage because you're obsessed and yes, it's a form of mental illness.
2006-10-26 21:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dwell on the loses. think about what you will eventually gain when you move on. The past is just that... it's passed. You're not crazy, just hurt. You don't love him more, you are just being sucked in by the memory of him in the past. Let it go and then you can start to heal and make new memories with someone new...
2006-10-26 21:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly do you love about him? Write it down. It's probably a very short list. Write down the problems you have with him in another list. Now ask yourself, are the good times worth putting up with the bad times?
2006-10-26 21:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not insane but soon you will be! look, sometimes maybe it was not meant to be and other times it was! God in mysterious ways choses who we should date or rather he throws that person into our life sort of speak! he threw this guy into your life and like i have heard so many times before from my friends: people that come and go out of your life had a purpose in your life. when i broke up with my ex which is now my bf again-thank GOD a million times- they all told me that he came into my life to make me wiser and a stronger person. i think that the reason your ex came into your life was to teach you something either about you, life, yourself, the relationship itself so that you will not mess it up again the next time you are with another guy, to make you wiser, more prudent, more aware about yourself and your life as well as to make you stronger. i know that to you it will not make any sense but maybe this guy came in and out of your life for a reson such as to show you what else there is to life or something like that for example. the reason you are doing all those things is because you are really really really depressed! talk with a friend, let it all out, cry it out, do whatever it takes to let go of the past and him! it will not happen overnight but with your friends and family by your side it will get better, trust me! you have to sit home and have a huge nervous breakdown if that is what it takes to let some of what is going on out! but here is what i will say! if you and this guy are meant to be at some time you will see and meet again!if not, it was not meant to be...the truth is that loving someone is one of the hardest things especially after you break up and saying that you do not love him is lieing to yourself as well as to others but now focus on the things that you once enjoyed! clubbing for ex., or having a facial done or pampering yourself or having a girls night out and hosting a small party at your place just for the girls! then each of you tries to cook a new recipe of food-if you are 10 pair up in 2 or 3's-then enjoy the meal, chat, and watch a DVD as well as stay up and just enjoing each other's co.! this will do you good if you work out, hang out with friends as well as family! tehn you will not feel depressed!plus, do not give up, since there is always hope and you have a whole life ahead of you, so do not try to do something stupid otherwise you really will hurt the ones that care and love you!
2006-10-26 22:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the price of Love
2006-10-26 21:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not, that's what i'm going through right now. Oh God knows how much i miss him.
2006-10-26 22:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋