im 25 and a guy im seeing is 38, my friends and family think the age gap is too much, but we get on too well not to see where things go, ive only just started dating him properly, we have been friends for a few months.
2006-10-26 21:12:12 · 51 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way girl if you are happy and it is you that matters forget what everyone else thinks my advice..... Take the bull by the horns ;) and GO FOR IT
2006-10-26 21:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by sammie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont see why you have to ask this question if you both love each other.
Friends and family have their own lives to lead and you have every right to choose a partner of your choice.
Age, like most people have said here, is only in the mind and are numbers only.
Anyway you dont have that much of an age gap, its only when there is a lot of gap then you have to worry. Having kids with an older person can have problems later on in life, should something happen to him and you are left alone, not many men are ready to have a ready family. Might find some but that will be out of no choice of yours, just a need.
2006-10-27 00:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by ashok kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family and friends probably think that you still have a lot of living to do; but the reality is that you'll probably do a lot more living with a guy of 38 than someone your own age. He is probably already settled in a job / on a career path and has decided the direction he wants his life to take. He is also probably old enough to not be solely impressed by going out and getting drunk, as many younger men are, and so will do more interesting things with you. So long as he is flexible enough to take on board your dreams and ambitions in your own timeframe, it shouldn't be a problem - but that stands regardless of age. The age gap is actually not that big and you are both old enough for that difference to be blurred. Speaking as someone who will be 38 next year, at 38 he is still young enough to not just want pipe and slippers and fit enough to enjoy life still. He has probably already made his mistakes in life and has learned to respect people to get the best out of them. Good luck; it could be the best relationship you'll ever have. And if it's not, it doesn't matter; it's just a relationship you saw as worth investing in at the time that didn't work out. It's your life and your relationship - it really shouldn't adversly affect anybody else, and don't let them bully you into thinking so.
2006-10-26 21:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by JB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not too old. I'm 37 and recently had a relationship with a man of 25. Everybody said that the age difference wouldn't matter if it was the other way round... if the man was older than the woman. I think that the only thing to do is listen to your heart... after all we're only as old as we feel (105 some mornings !) and if you really love each other, then that is stronger than what anyone else thinks about it. They'll soon come round to your way of thinking when they see the happiness he brings to you. Good luck !
2006-10-26 21:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're a full grown woman so no it's not too much of an age gap although maturity has nothing to do with age and if your family still feels that they should comment on such an issue, perhaps they don't think you are mature enough for this man. Other than that, I don't know why they feel it is an issue.
2006-10-26 21:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
From past experience the age gap shouldn't be an issue.Age is only a number and you should carrying on seeing this guy. Your family and friends will continue to see you are both happy with each other....and in time they will come to terms with it.
In time talk to him and ask him how he feels about the age gap, and if he says he has no problem....it's time to be happy.
Good luck
2006-10-26 21:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by BigD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 38 and have become very fond of a 27 y.o. guy, he is very mature and respectful. The age gap is only an issue if you let it be. Tell your family that you are mature enough to handle the situation and to just be supportive of you. It will work out.
2006-10-26 21:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not about too old or not, it is about the differences you may have. If it is going well, keep dating. However, you might want to date for a long time before considering a higher commitment, because the age differences sometimes don't come out until way later.
2006-10-26 21:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be - it depends on the guy - as long as he gets on with your family and friends and doesn't try to manipulate or control you. I met and went out with a 50 year old when I was 21. 9 years later I finally left and realise that I've wasted a third of my life on someone who was manipulative and controlling. I now see my friends and family on a regular basis, and one person commented that there are shorter prison sentences! The main thing is that you are happy, and you stay in contact with friends and family. Also, if you have any doubts yourself, dont ignore them!
2006-10-27 00:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope I think if you two get on well then it shouldnt be a barrier - if you were 18 or something then a 13 year age gap would be too much - but you're old enough to make the right decisions at 25. xx
2006-10-26 21:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a few people who had the same problem. The gap now is ok, cos u r both young....but if it does become more serious later...marrige etc.....that when the age plays a pary . when u r mid 30,s - in the prime, he will be 50 and ready for bed.
Honestly, I have personally seen this happen to two mates i know.
good luck , and enjoy anyway
2006-10-26 21:18:08 · answer #11 · answered by Lance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋