Have you ever had a sibling die?

Question

Were they young?.Were you close?..How did you cope?

Answer 1

my youngest brother committed suicide back in Jan 2002 he was 22 yrs old. He and i were very close. I was living in CA and he was still living at home in Fl with my parents at the time. We spoke on the phone every Monday.
Even though that was 4 years ago coping with his death is something we experience every single day. One thing that helps is i know my brother comes to visit me and he is around me and the rest of my family. 2 weeks after he passed away my family and i discovered that he leaves pennies in the oddest places .we know its my brother because they are always on ""tails" and he being the practical joker he always knew that none of us picked up pennies unless they were on "heads". Every year on his birthday my family and my parents and i get together decorate and have a celebration for him. We have his fave food(pizza and beer) and we each take turns sharing our memories that we have of him when he was alive.

Answer 2

My family experienced death intimately when my brother died over 26 years ago. We were devastated and my sister and I were pregnant, along with his girlfriend (they were to marry two weeks later). My brother and I were very close (also born 9 months apart) and I really thought my world was ending. Our family closed ourselves off from others and sat in the dark waiting for the funeral and even after the funeral. We just could not cope. Back then, there weren't a lot of support groups one could go to and we were not a family to vocalize our emotions. It just wasn't done. So we held things in, cried, looked at the sad faces around us and cried even more.

Those were horrible times. Death came knocking at the door again and we lost our oldest sister. We were determined, however, to cope better and help each other. Instead of focusing on her death, we focused on her life (and her teenaged daughters that she left behind). We didn't sit around in the dark, crying. We discussed how we felt and tried to comprehend the feelings we each had.

We certainly came together better as a family. :)

Answer 3

Yes! Cope? One day at a time. Death is not easy, and sometimes even harder for others. Hvaing someone close to you, pass away is devistating. It effects you not only physically but mentally. Take time to be by yourself, but not for very long, and go back and think of all the good times and bad times. The body is gone but his/her memory will always be inbetted in you heart and your mind. Time is what this type of healing needs. Good Luck and I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

Yes, It was little less than 5 years before I and my twin were born, my second to oldest sister, Denise died at the age of 18 months in late 1957. The oldest was born in 1950, Denise in early 1956, us, the twins, in mid-1962 and the baby, and only boy, in 1965. It isn't easy growing up in the shadow of a dead sibling, especially when you and your younger twin look just like her, a reminder to the ever grieving Mom.

Answer 5

yes I have had four yes four all brothers one was a still born baby the other was my oldest brother when he was just 18 and I was only eight his death effected the whole dynamic of our family I remember when our parents came home to tell us its as if it were yesterday that night plays in my mind like a movie in times when I recall it we used to all be so close back then but somehow his death we all just distanced ourselves as if detached ourselves from one another probable a self method to protect ourselves from ever feeling that hurt again but years latter my youngest brother died but he was older then me we shared a birthday so that s always hard and he truly was the definition of big brother very protective and you could rely on him and he was fun and kind caring loving sensitive I could go on but just now the middle one has passed and I am not quite sure how or what to feel as he was just so horrible to me and my children his whole life he was so full of hatred that I often wished for him to die he was such a mean nasty terrible person evil always mumbling cursing us out stealing from us lying about it so its really kind of bitter sweet he didn t believe in nor worship God but I do very strongly so I know I should feel bad but then I just cant after years and years of his directed hatefulness onto me and my children the struggle I am having is I have always lived my life being the better person but does it make me such a bad person to not mourn his death in ay such way

Answer 6

nicely, i dont precisely tell them to bypass and die, yet i swear at them a lot. they take it nicely regardless of the shown fact that. he's your little bro, understanding young ones, he will probable be fantastic once you handle him. make an apology such as you advise it, and grant to convey him out or something. possibilities are high, he will overlook with reference to the completed factor. and he stands out as the single asserting it to you after some years, lol

Answer 7

nope