Why do girls only go out with jerks and nice guys get over looked. I am a nice guy not ugly or any thing like that. But when it comes to girls I am always over looked. All girls want to be with me is friends. I am ok with this but I am starting to think that I am never going to get a girlfriend. I am 24 years old and I have been single all my life why is this. And if anyone asks no I am not gay.
2006-10-26 21:08:53 · 33 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't stress out to much ...and don't put yourself down ...i think you are trying to hard ............you sound like a nice guy to me .....you will met the right girl sooner than you expect it.....and be yourself ..cheer up you are only 24 ....
2006-10-26 21:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all starts with the personality. The jerks can chat away and charm the pants off a nun whereas you are probably standing saying very little.
I met this bloke once who couldn't understand why he hadn't had many girlfriends and he was in his late thirties. On talking to him it wasn't much of a mystery to me as he lived his life on his pc only had one friend who was a recluse and he constantly talked about what he had downloaded on his pc or something equally as boring.
I'm not saying that this is the case with you I am just using it as and example but you need to have something to say to people when you meet them. Looks won't get you everything you want. Also maybe you are pitching at the wrong type of girl??? In 5 years they will be interested in you because the jerks have ground them down and they'll be looking for someone nice. But in the mean time go out and live life and have something to say!
2006-10-26 21:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Nedster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, I know you said girls only but I completely sympathise. I was exactly where you are now four years ago. I had more girls as friends than anyone else I know, and close friends at that, but it was strictly platonic. You watch all the girls going off with prats and wankers, complain about how badly they're treated and how they want a decent guy, and then go back to them. The porblem with guys like us is we'd rather be ourselves and treat women with resepct. They see this and want to keep us in their lives forever, but as a friend they can always depend on. You could try changing your tactics; don't be so nice - treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen.
Nah, I couldn't do that either.
Just be patient my friend, you will get your chance. Nice guys finish last, but he who laughs last, laughs best.
I was technically single until I was 22 before I met my girlfriend. We've been together for four years now. We're moving in together in a couple of months and I've never been happier. I'm not trying to rub it in, just know that there is always hope. Don't change who you are, because when you do finally find the girl who's willing to give you that chance she won't let you go. Hang in there mate, your time will come. Maybe even sooner than you think.
2006-10-26 21:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by James M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're young. You just haven't met the right person yet. You've been single all your life because you're only 24.
If the girls you know choose jerks then they aren't the girls you want anyway. You hopefully want someone who is more well adjusted than that, and you'll meet her one of these days. Jerks of a feather flock together even if the young women don't show their jerkiness on the outside the way guys often do.
Be glad the jerks all have each other and be glad you aren't one of them.
2006-10-26 21:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love the fact you asked for girls only, and the majority of your replies are from guys!!
As a girl, I can say that I've never been out with a jerk, but I much prefer someone exciting and risque than someone who's dull and boring. I'm not saying you're either, but there has to be a reason that you're overlooked and seen as friend rather than lover material....and if it's not the way you look, then it must be your personality. If I'm honest, "nice" guys don't really do it for me...I don't like nasty guys, but I like a guy who's not going to let me walk all over him...who's not too soft...and who excites me. Ask yourself if that's you? If it is, then I'm sure Mrs Right will be coming along anyday now.
2006-10-26 21:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like a real nice guy maybe the girls who are just your friends go for jerks but you just have to wait for the right girl,nice guys get the nice girls,you are young dont give up keep trying you will find her and when you do you will look back and laugh the jerks.
2006-10-26 23:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by LiL_mZ_Sa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am certain that, based on your age, the females you are pursuing are extremely immature. I would recommend that you consider pursuing someone that is more mature, perhaps in their late 20's or early 30's. It is also possible, that the females that you desire are more interested in what you have to offer them and, unfortunately, that may be where you are coming up short. Many young women are judging you by what you have. It is not until later, that women mature and realize that having things does not fulfill a love life or a sex life. Focus on making your dreams happen and then just see where that takes you, you'll meet someone worth your time someday.
P.S. Stop trying to meet girls at bars
2006-10-26 21:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tibbytwinkletoes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly? ye get overlooked because ye let the bad boys steal the limelight - its like nice boys NEVER chat you up and they're so nice they kinda get scared of rejection or something?
With regards to your female friends - are you sure you're just not one of these guys that is so adorable and always there with your ear available for their woes - that the girl values youso much as a friend - that shes not going to risk loosing the friendship by dating you!
Theres a very fine line between being a nice guy and a pushover - just make sure you keep the balance. xx
2006-10-26 21:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im feel that same way mate! You say you have friends that are girls though, I think you should ask them. See if they'll take you for a night out and make an effort to help you find the right girl. Or better still see if one of them can set you up on a blind date?
2006-10-26 21:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by darkmowson1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got. In other words, change your attitude around people if your current one isn't working.Of course this has to be someone new.First impression is key.There is also alot of variety of girls, ask yourself what tpye of a girl your looking for.When you find that girl, go for it and present yourself in a manner that she will like and grow to love.One thing to remmeber, never disagree with a girl on a first impression, make them think their right and make then laugh.Laughter destroys any barrier between you two.If you can make a girl laugh, don't **** it up by saying something stupid.Light travels faster then sound, this is why some people appaer bright until they speak.Take care man, theres lots of girls out there...don't be afraid to go up to a girl and say whats on your mind.Nice guys finish last and thats the truth.
2006-10-26 21:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by chesscrazz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nice guys finish last. Its not that they don't like you, your the one they will come to when there ready to settle down. but the bad boy or so they think is always more fun. If I weren't married I go on a date with you.
2006-10-26 21:13:58 · answer #11 · answered by anaunknwn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋