Why i am not able to talk like a normal person on a particular topic?

Question

I am 20 year old indian guy.I can't talk like a normal person.i cannot express my self easily.I am having depression and tensions in life.Nothing come to my mind if suppose i want to talk with the person i know.I will talk only one sentence like where u had gone and after that nothing more comes to talk.is this kind of disorder

Answer 1

i'm a 23 year old law student. I know exactly how you feel. My answer is that we lack confidence. These are signs of social anxiety. But more importantly, I know that I lack feelings of self-worth. Its like if you arent strong in knowing who you are and what you think its practically impossible to hold a conversation with someone. Its like you feel like you are indifferent on every single topic. I've struggled with this for years and have realized that you really have to get in touch with who you are, try to build your confidence by thinking, this is me, if I relax and open myself up people will respect it. Eventually you find yourself more relaxed and when you put less pressure on coming up with things to say, the conversations will become smoother.

Good luck.

Answer 2

you're not alone. i just finished answering ann's question and saw yours then found her here aswell. i get the same thing. i find when i'm talking to someone i want to like me i pressure myself to talk. i'm thinking so much of what to say if i say anything it sounds, i think, shallow or boring and also i think i'm so unintersting that who would want to listen to me anyway. thats on a bad day. on a good day i'm more relaxed, probably had a beer, and i can just talk without thinking too much about what to say or impressing anyone. i havnt had friends for a very long time because of the same problem. it actually comes down to being too negative. people say just push the bad thoughts out and bring in the good but it's very hard when your head strong like i am and probably you and ann and a million others are. we are still young. i hope tomorrow is a better day for you sweety:)

Answer 3

Be more self assertive, without being arrogant.

Answer 4

hm. you sound like me..