My bf and I broke up a couple of days ago, we were together for almost a year. We share a 3 bedroom townhouse, me, him and a friend..last night was so hard, seeing him, talking and not being able to tell him that I love him, and missed him. Not being able to touch or kiss him.
It's his birthday today..how shity is that. We are still gonna spend the evening together. I can see that he still wants to be with me, and I want to be with him, but so much has happened and it feels so hopeless.This situation is very confusing to me, he worries about how I'm feeling, wants to talk to me and know what I'm thinkin, looks for ways to 'accidently' touch me, last night when he came to my room to say goodnight he kissed me..
I gave him his present this morning with a letter I wrote to him yesterday, he got so sad when he read it, and it upset me so that I just got my things together and left for work.
How can it be that two people that love each other the way we do just can't get it right?
2006-10-26 20:48:32 · 10 answers · asked by sexybabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
who broke up with who? regardless, if you stay in such close contact(living together) its bound to be a nightmare for someone and likely both of you. Can you imagine how one of you will feel when the other brings the new girl/guy home?? Its really hard to break away from an ex completely.Ive been having a friends with benefits relationship with my ex for 7 years now and it hurts.Both of us, in different ways.A clean break although tough at first is the only way to truly make a break a all.
2006-10-26 20:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU can make the miracle hapen.
Analyze first the reason for breaking up. Who made a mistake? Is it serious? Or just something childish...
Is it worth making a compromise (well, that's something I thought I'll never do, still done it several times)
Based on your conclusion (no or yes, give it a try) you have two options:
1. Leave the guy, the house - move to another place
2. Talk to the guy. Friendly, heart to heart discussion. Be open. Leave personal ambitions aside...
I don't believe in "time will sort things out" - Ok, but in the meantime should I be miserable and wait??? For what??? Senility? Noooo, that's not for me!
Act! Fight for your hapiness, once you know the path you should take.
Life is a struggle, struggle for it with love and passion, my friend.
2006-10-27 04:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Doris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually never said what the real problem was? You just sound sick and in love! You two must of broke up for a reason...So, I would say the two of you are needing to sit down and take the time to be sincere and honest with each other. Make "rules" concerning your fighting. How your going to fight, and what can happen during a fight-or argument. So both sides feelings are heard completely, and understood. Doesn't mean either one of you have to agree with each other, but come to some kind of in-between that you BOTH can live with. COMPROMISING is the key word. If one or the other is trying to get "control" of the relationship, they will be trying forever all on their own, because in reality, NO-ONE has control over nothing but them self. I hope this has helped a little!
2006-10-27 04:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This is actually breaking my heart.... Like I really want to see how this turns out....
Time will tell you...
But, it certainly does not sound hopeless at all!!.....
You just got to learn to put things behind you and move on.... If the two of you cannot mutually agree to let a little "tiff" stop you from having that intimacy for each other again, then you'll have to wait until it happens.....
Sounds like it will pass.... You just have to learn patience, my dear......
Remember: Everyday is a gift given you, it is called the present.
Thank God it is not given all at once, it may be unbearable.....
I know this will work out... Because, secretly, you two are finding ways to let each other know, you need to be near......
your sister,
Ginger,
gmcfayden@yahoo.com
2006-10-27 03:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-27 04:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by chantel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres wha t you need to do, talk to him, take him out for a walk and tell him how you feel, whole heartedly, pull no punches dont worry aobut anything, just let your heart out, if he feels the same way, simply commit yourselves to making it work, it sounds to me liek both of you really care for each other, best of luck.
2006-10-27 03:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by irishthunda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through, me and my gf going through same thing right now, sounds like your situation more likely to work out...why not trying to talk to him? sounds like he really wants to get back together from what you said
2006-10-27 03:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by digdoggy299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can happen! Perhaps you were a little crowded!
2006-10-27 03:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you two just get married, dummy?
2006-10-27 03:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for miracle .....
2006-10-27 04:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Expert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋