me and my sister have always been really close, but now that she is with this guy she doesnt even talk to me anymore because he got mad at me over something i didn't do.
2006-10-26 20:10:08 · 21 answers · asked by sprklngdmnd88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like the issue isn't the guy, it's the communication.
2006-10-26 20:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she must be all going through stormy passionate feelings right now. Do not take this as rejection or personally. She must be really in love and there is a phase in love when a person turns blind to everyone else. Giver her some time. After a week or so, offer her to sit down with you and her bf to clear the misunderstanding. Siblings and beloveds are both equally important in one's lives and one should not be forced to choose one over the other. It is not necessary that one's beloved and family share a cordial relationship for a person to get along with each of them. She must be hurting too even though she is mad right now, for no fault of yours, of course. Give her the security that only a sister can give so that she can always turn to you unconditionally. If she refuses to listen, try it again another weekend or write a letter to tell her that it was all a misunderstanding and that you can never dream of hurting her or her bf, which is important for her happiness and clear it all out. Good Luck!
2006-10-26 20:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep showing her unconditional love and attention and she'll come around. Invite her to watch movies or go to lunch. Do whatever you have to let her know you still love and cherish your friendship with her. If all else fails, write a letter telling her you miss her and recount some of the great times you've shared. Include a picture you've taken together. Try inviting both your sister and her guy over for a home cooked meal. It's hard to stay mad at a sister who has your best interest at heart.
2006-10-26 20:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choosing anyone over your sister is never ok...unless your sister does something absolutely unforgiveable...but even then you must forgive...eventually because she is family, and in the end thats all you've got. So dont give up on her, try to fix your friendship, eventually things will work out...
2006-10-26 20:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lady A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a sisiter, whatever or whoever makes your sister happy should make you happy too, rite? I guess you are on a defensive as she's not spending as much time with you as you guys use to. About the not talking bit, that's lame, she's your sister, i'm sure you know how to get her started again and she needs to clear things out between her boyfriend and you.
2006-10-26 20:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not okay. Family is the only thing anyone should ever be able to count on. Everyone else is basically a stranger.
Just wait her out. Eventually she'll come to her senses. Do not show her how you can be just as cold as she is - just be patient. After all, boyfriends and girlfriends come and go.
2006-10-26 20:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said u are very close to your sister then dear why dont you talk to her.......sometime miscommunication leads to distance in relation ....so i suggest talk to her....... writing letter is good idea but to person u are nt close ..u cant express urself ...as u said u are close to ur sis...then talk to her...please start liking that guy for your sister.....i know sometime bro start hating the guy in sis life...please come out of that delimma....he also love ur sis n i can bet more than u.....will take care of her so give her space, time and discuss it...speak bro...:)
2006-10-26 20:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think there is a communication gap between you & your sister or you & her boyfriend. All 3 of you should sit together, talk, clear all the misunderstandings. Then, life will be back to normal !! Best of luck !!
2006-10-26 20:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by chatty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister and tell her you value your realtionship. So the guy's angry at you does that meanshe is too, can't she think for herself? You're adults and hopefully she is mature enough to trust you if you tell her that you really didn't do whatever you are being accused of.
2006-10-26 23:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry which you're feeling so injury over this. It wish it lets you be attentive to that your sister has no longer grew to become her back on her family contributors. She has long previous to stay together with her boyfriend on account which you and your loved ones does no longer enable her see her boyfriend. You took away her pc and get in touch with. it extremely is loopy. you have forced her to be certain on. She has made it. What you ought to do now's end interfering in her dating. settle for that she is dating this guy and then she could be prepared to be certain you and your mom and dad back. in case you maintain interfering, you will no longer see her back. Your decision. You and your mom and dad are in charge for this occasion, no longer your sister. Your mom and dad and you're able to desire to realize that "your" u . s . isn't the only your mom and dad come from. your u . s . is the only you reside in now. in case you could't settle for that, you're able to desire to flow back on your previous u . s .. Your mom and dad knew whilst they moved which you and your sister might might desire to greater healthy into the way of life of your NEW u . s .. Your sister has grown up on your new u . s . and she or he now no longer accepts the way of life of your previous u . s .. it extremely is not any longer ok that your mom and dad assume a woman (your sister) to settle for a manner of life of her previous u . s . mutually as she has been raised interior the way of life of her new u . s .. Your sister is 20. That makes her an grownup. end interfering in her life in case you pick for to be certain her back. You and your mom and dad might desire to have been doing somewhat loopy issues on your sister if the police are in contact. you ought to sense ashamed.
2016-11-25 22:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by duffield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋