my boyfriend just keep quiet whenever i ask him about us, he seldom tells me he loves me and only if i kept asking. When i try to tell him what hurts me he only says," i'm sorry, i accept it's my mistake". We r both working and we seldom talk, he says he has other priorities which is his family but when i told him if he wants a break up, he just kept quite. one admirer of mine told him to give me up and he was furious with him, i don't know if he was jealous or what? I can not really fiqure out if he still loves me i have no courage to ask him anymore, maybe because i fear the answer. I love him very much and i made that clear to him, now i have regrets for letting him know im so much in love with him, is it possible that he is doing this coz he knows i could hardly let go of him? I tried many times, telling him it's over and that i'm through with it but after a week or two i would find myself calling and almost begging him tocontact me.I feel stupid, i hate myself. Please help me
2006-10-26 20:06:25 · 12 answers · asked by angel blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may just be scared of commitment.. but what truly matters is that you are happy. You and you alone are responcible for your personal relationships.. if you are not happy, you should move on. If you have given him an ultimatum, and he didnt respond.. that shows a lack of concern, and thats just not what you deserve.
2006-10-26 20:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so your hooked on this guy rite?
So I'm going to lead you through a series of questions that may clear the smoke that's blocked out your view of your life
let's start out by stating that nothing I say is the truth
it's neither a lie nor the truth I'm just creating a canvas that is intended to empower you in the face of this problem OK?
good
now, look at your life before you met this guy was life going well?
had you survivede life prior to meeting him?
I know it sounds silly
just keep answering the questions
Since you had survived living up to your introduction to this man
what's says your life is any less without him He's just a fish in the sea called men of which there are many many others who seak women such as yourself to embrace and caress
So what now has a grip on your heart? That you yourself didn't put together?
keep looking you'll find it.
2006-10-27 03:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys have a hard time talking about our feelings [it's considered "unmanly" and most of us learned in early childhood to keep our feelings to ourselves]
It can be very intimidating for a man when his woman wants to "talk about the relationship" - in some cases, you can actually push a man away by asking those kind of questions.
Men are more likely to SHOW our love through actions rather than talk about it in a way that women can understand.
Does your boyfriend act like he loves you?
Does he do stuff for you? Does he buy you nice things? Does he go out of his way to be nice to you? Do you guys have an active sex life? Is he considerate and protective of you?
If the answer to all of these questions is YES, then your man loves you - so quit bugging him to TALK about his feelings - he's a guy, and most of us really don't like to do that.
2006-10-27 03:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you have been dating. But it seems to me that if he had genuine feelings for you, he wouldn't keep putting you thru this. I could be wrong but, I think you are wasting precious time....get out there and find someone who will love and appreciate you. A loving relationship shouldn't be torture. Don't let life slip by while you are waiting for this guy to wake up, speak up and shape up. Life is too short. Never ever settle for less. You deserve to have the love you give, given back to you. Believe me, there is no reason to waste your life like this. When you find your true love.......there will be no question of his love for you.
2006-10-27 03:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by lostandfound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys unlike girls don't have the ability to express themselves in a Girlie way. Him having a go at that other guy was not him being jealous its him saying HEY back of THIS IS MY CHICK... & i wanna be with her.
you have a choice. I dont think he is IN LOVE with you.... I do belive he LOVES you ...
dont call him always as this re assures him of the power he has over you.
2006-10-27 03:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by mumzie04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sexually involved and he doesn't love you. Been there. Hurts so bad. I am so sorry. But you don't deserve to go on like this forever. Try to find things that you can get involved in that will reveal the true you. Other men will love you. Pick one.
2006-10-27 03:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't push to hard if you do you will push him away. maybe he just needs some time to think. and see what happens and if you do this and then after a while ask him how he feels about you and if he still can't or wont tell you then move on.
2006-10-27 18:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Almost Happy Housewife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force him to feel any certain way about you. Just have fun when you guys are together, and don't worry about it. Just because you love him doesn't mean he has to love you. Let it be whatever it is, and enjoy it.
2006-10-27 03:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by LoquaciousFirehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his general lack of communication should be a good warning sign for you. he is obviously not able to communicate how he truly feels about your or the relationship. maybe he is just waiting for you to dump him? what makes you so attracted to this person? you need to ask yourself 'what am i getting out of being in this relationship" ??????
2006-10-27 03:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's tired of your relationship...don't be too aggressive...if he doesn't like you anymore, let go! there's a lot of guys out there! don't waste your life and time with such people...people who doesn't value you that much...
2006-10-27 03:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋