My child sees her grandmother around twice a month, for 2 days at a time. During this time she never respects my wishes on bed time and junk food etc.... She also can be very unstable and has threatened suicide.... because i have not allowed her to do things because i have been busy. I am her MUM what do i do?
2006-10-26 20:02:24 · 6 answers · asked by mumzie04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mother in law thinks shes my kids mum too....not listening to my wishes and thinks i dont care for them the same as she does.....and shes right i care for them more!!!!
i managed to get through the problem and told her that if she couldnt respect the way i wanted to raise my children then i would be left with no choice other than for her to not be able to sit them on her own....in other words we would visit and i would stay.....my hubby also noticed the difference in the kids behaviour when they stayed with her for the day and he supported me all the way......
so basically i would give her an choice...do as you do....or dont do at all.....
keep in mind though with certain issues with food and what not it is the grandparents unwritten responsibility to spoil them....but should not interfere with their daily diet or routine.....
2006-10-26 20:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one I am a Nana and while I try to respect what my daughter wants for her kids I believe in Nanny time and Nanny treats which is being allowed to stay up late having pj days and not always eating the right foods so as a Nana I would only do this sometimes to try to keep a happy balance between what I believe a Nanna shld do and what the parents also want. I want a special relationship with my grand kids and someone where they as they grow feel they could come to when having problems
2006-10-26 20:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child, or the MIL threatened suicide? If it's the MIL, don't let your daughter stay unless you are there. If it's your child, try skipping one of the scheduled visits and see if they both straighten up.
2006-10-26 21:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she only threatened suicide because she knows it will get her what she wants. you tell her that u love her but this is how it is. and don't let her tell u what to do
2006-10-26 20:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by jumiboo2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as possible...sounds like rebellion
2006-10-26 20:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As often as YOU feel!!!!
2006-10-26 20:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by mountain girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋