How do I control myself from loosing my temper immediately ??

Question

I have a bad habit that I loose my temper right away. When I get angry I try not to hurt someone's feelings but still I do. Can anyone tell me how can I calm down when I get mad at someone???

Answer 1

For me this works well: I ask myself, is it really that important? Is my angry reaction to this situation going to make a difference? If it isn't going to help, I back off. I do get angry sometimes, but this keeps me from overreacting. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

There is no need to calm down when you get mad at someone.Just don't show your anger at the person, try to keep your mouth shut when you are angry or speak as less as possible or don't speak at all. Angrier you are less you should be talking and just don't talk or answer back when you feel that you are going to shout and seal your lips.
This is something similar to what prof. Asthana in Munnabhai used to do but practically not possible as you cannot laugh in tense situations.
Remember this next time you get angry and you won't have to lose anybody by hurting their feeling when you are angry.

Answer 3

People for whom getting or being angry is a problem have turned a perfectly good emotion into a lifestyle of continually being and getting angry. In many ways, Anger is a "cover-emotion" since it is rarely a case of simple righteous indignation, but rather a reaction to rejection, attack or a perceived threat. Negative self-talk, poor self esteem, a desire to control one's surroundings, frustration at not getting one's way are all possible triggers to an angry outburst. Couple these external stimuli with faulty thinking about the external world (i.e. unrealistic expectations about control, or people doing what you want, people ought to let me have my way, etc.) and one is quite quickly angry. After a period of learning these new chemical pathways, the brain will become very efficient at "getting it's fix"
Anger is most harmful to the person getting angry. Even before an outburst is visible to those in the fall-out zone, the blood pressure and heart rate have been steadily climbing; the whole fight-flight mechanism has stoked the body's fires preparing for confrontation. That's stressful from a physiological point of view. It makes your parts wear out faster and predisposes you to a wide variety of stress related disorders (i.e. heart attacks or ulcers). In addition, the emotional consequences from hurting those around you can be very hard (and expensive) to endure. Anger is harmful if too frequent, too intense, too long, leads to aggression, or when it disturbs relationships with others (home, work, school, social).
Stopped the cycle. If you miss seeing the trigger setup early enough to just avoid the trap, you know what it feels like when you are starting to get angry. When you start to feel even a little like that, just call for a time out or pause and remind yourself of how important it is to remain in control of yourself, not the other person.
You do not need to be in control of people around you. You can only control yourself. You can't control them. Most of the time, they are not even aware of you and are busy worrying about their own set of problems, so chances are it isn't about you (whatever they might be doing that bugs you).
This all takes practice and awareness. But once you get your thoughts about what makes you angry, you will have a better chance at controling it

Answer 4

Wow! You got so many problems.
* You have a bad habit.
* You loose your temper easily.
* You can get angry.
* You hurt people's feeling.
* You can't calm down or control yourself.
* You get mad.
I advise you to seek enlightenment from a Buddhist priest. He don't have all your problems and he can help you to lighten all your ills. Serious, give it a try.

Answer 5

Try making it a point to check yourself, breathe and count to 100. Also, think back over those instances when you have gotten mad before. Ask yourself if you really need to be so angry. By having another perspective to things, you can gradually lean that things do not warrant that amount of anger most of the time.

Answer 6

i understand its frustrating exceedingly being pregnant. however the significant factor i got here upon , is to stay calm. If my daughter does some thing that she shouldnt and that i boost my voice or get fustrated she senses it. So I in basic terms attempt my ultimate to stay calm and confer together with her. If she is quite finding out your endurance , it may help to take a 2d to your self and picture with reference to the type you opt for to cope with it extremely then in basic terms bounce interior the 2d. in case you go into it with a plan you won't lose your temper. It worked for me. It additionally facilitates me to bear in mind that she is in basic terms a toddler/ toddler and that i cant assume her to be acceptable she remains gaining wisdom of. Dont beat your self up nonetheless. you have alot occurring. additionally Ive got here upon that if I call my daughter with the help of her first call she could forget approximately approximately me yet once I call her with the help of her nickname or with the help of the two her first and middle call she will pay attention. It has a tendency to seize her interest.

Answer 7

Maybe you should seek counseling, or anger management classes, before your anger gets you into a world of trouble.
Good luck.

Answer 8

tell them you have to walk away , and do so till you calm down , once you realise what triggers your anger you ll be able to stop it alot quicker and maybe not have to walk out

Answer 9

get a friend to say purple elephant. its a diversion tactic and works.