Just need some advice...?

Question

i know everybody goes through these things, breaking up with their girfriend/boyfriend. But im taking it pretty bad and honnestly it seems like i cant turn to anyone because no one is there for me. She cheated on me once and i was kind enough to take her bak and now she cheated on me again and said i didnt treat her good enough so she stoped loving me and loved this other guy (her ex) and it just hit me me hard because in my own eyes i treated her the best i could yet i dont know why she still had to cheat on me. I gave her everything i could, i was always there for her, to care for her when she was sick and to think after all this, she even managed to manipulate my friends feelings and she told them her story and now they wont even talk to me and they all turned theyre back on me when i needed them the most and they say that they dont want to get involved and i just dont understand how this all happened and i really dont know what to do. i havent eaten or slept in over a week..

Answer 1

I know that this may seem like it will never get better, but first, I want to tell you that it will ONE day be behind you.

You have to understand that her blaming you and saying that you treated her badly is just her excuse. Even though I don't know you, I'm pretty sure that if you believe you treated her well and you put in a real effort, then you did treat her well. It doesn't take too much to treat someone well, but it takes some effort to treat someone badly. I am sure that she just said you treated her badly so that she could get away with her cheating. She only probably made that up so everyone would't hate her or blame her for lying. If she already cheated, she was bound to do it again, and this time she tried to prepare herself for a backlash by blaming you.

You have to understad that atleast you didn't give up o her the first time she cheated on you. You gave her more than enough of a chance. Atleast this means you can't blame yourself even though she wants you to.

Don't let her manipulate you like she did to your so called friends. By the way, you should know that if your friends took the side of your cheating ex- grilfriend, then they are not really your friends anyways, they are her friends.

And even though it seems like you lost so much all at once, things come in bunles too. Once you decide to put this all past you, I promise you will find a new circle of friends and a new girlfriend. Her cheating ways will catch up with her.

Look past this, and show them that you don't need them.

Answer 2

You have been hurt pretty badly-and yes- you are right - we all go through these things but that doesn't make it any easier. It sounds like you did your best in this relationship and still got burned. She cheated on you- you forgave her - and then she did it again. Now she has even turned your friends against you when you need them most.

First of all- don't take her back again. She may try to reel you back in. Don't fall for it.

Next- if your friends won't talk to you go see a counselor. Maybe just 5 or 6 times. I don't know how old you are- probably young- maybe you have access to a school counselor- or maybe a clergy person. If you are not eating or sleeping that tells me you need help.

The young lady in question has problems that are causing her to treat people badly. This time it happened to be you.

Remember the saying "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." This experience may make you more sensitive to other people's pain. It could make you a better human being and a better lover. Or it could just make you a tired bitter prematurely old man. It is up to you. Good luck.

Answer 3

I feel for you . . . don't feel you can't turn to anyone -- you're here, aren't you? I'm not going to tell you what you shouldn't have done but one thing is for sure, she is not the girl for you. It's normal to feel so rotten because in spite of her, you still gave it your best shot. If you haven't slept or eaten for a week, now is the time to pick yourself up. First thing, take a shower, it will make you feel better, eat some chocolates, get a massage. What I'm saying is, do something nice for yourself. Know that the pain is there and may be too much right now, but it will go away; it may not be today, or tomorrow, but it will.

Answer 4

Flip man, you sound so depressed . As a stranger cant say much, but i think the worse is behind you.Sometimes even i think that a majority of the women misuse the trust, im not saying men do not do it.Best is to keep quiet, eat well pal, wait for time, that will heal you and do not do anything stupid.

Somewhere down in her heart she knows what she has done, as long as you are a honest guy,donn worry pa... just lay off for a while....

Answer 5

Dear Dark Kaori,

I am now in my 40's and my advice to you is based from my own experience when i was a lot younger. i thought too at that time that death was sweeter. you know what i did? i talked to my mother and just poured out everything that i felt at that time. i felt good because i realized that there were people ( my family) who really loved everything about me and yet i was wasting my tears and emotions on someone who did not deserve them. and who do you say your friends are? i think they are not your friends after all because a true friend will stick to you thru thick and thin. neither they deserve your friendship. from the way you wrote, i think you are still too young. although this may sound trite, i assure you that you can find a better if not the best one. i assure you that you deserve somebody more than that unfaithful girlfriend of yours. why? because i think you are a faithful and decent person who values relationships. yes, it is so painful at first but i guarantee and swear that time heals all wounds. in my case, to let the wounds heal faster, i read the bible ( sorry Dark Kaori, i dont know if you would agree with me on this because it was so effective for me) and other inspirational materials.

by the way, i am now a MOTHER of two intelligent, confident and beautiful persons. beautiful inside and out Dark Kaori. had i continued to sulk and languish in my misery at that time, i would not have them. our God has somebody in store for us.

Good luck on the next episode of your love life. i will pray for you Dark Kaori.

Answer 6

Some girls are just manipulative bitches, and she is probably trying to make you feel bad because she is a skank. My brother went through something simular. He wasn't perfect but he was a whole hell of alot better to her than most guys are and she still cheated on him four times. Seriously, have enough self esteem to know that you can do better than that.

Answer 7

Love is sweet and bitter. Don't worry there always someone to talk to.Last but not less is GOD. Not to worry of been cheated by someone,thiings has to go on. As what you have said the best treat have given to her and she till leave you, then let go.Be happy go lucky.

Answer 8

hey honey you need to just try to move on in life we all know that is going to be really hard but things happened you need to find a girl that will treat you good and give you the love you need and if your friends are giving you their back they are not good friends you don't need them try to go out and have fun and start dating other girls

Answer 9

bro just get her off your back......she not the kind of gal that is worth you true love....give her up since she can afford to break your heart twice....time will heal your heart trust...giv your love to other girl that desvure your true love.......
well if you need someone to turn to ...mail me i can learn you a ear....if you dun mind can email me at [e-mail].
i a male if you dun mind :)