SHE IS A CHRISTIAN ALSO
2006-10-26 19:13:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
LETS SAY SHE DID IT BEFORE SHE BECAME SAVED
2006-10-26 19:14:29 · update #1
Hello,
The Bible says 'Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.' (2Co 5:17). So if she really is sorry about it and confessed it as a sin to God and also to you (I'm sure she did the last one;) and you're happy about her, you know that God has given her to you, then I don't think personally that her past should be a problem - because she's done with it: 'There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.' (Rom 8:1) But fornication is such a sin that can come back any time, so you both have to be very careful, always being very close to God, because once you committed it you can fall back easier. You've got to walk very close to God.
My advise is for you to pray on it, and if you're sure about the will of God and have peace on marrying her, do it.
2006-10-26 20:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Familia Furus 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The question here is do you love her and does she love you.
As for forgiveness...I believe that is God's department. You can forgive her, but then doesn't that mean she was wrong and will always be a little in your debt for that forgiveness. This is a bad way to start a long term relationship and marriage. If her faith is important to you than that may be something worth discussing in depth as a compatibility issue. However the bible is full of characters who were sinners and were saved, so making this the issue for whether or not to marry is a bit off target. There are a lot of other things more important like love, respect, mutual values. I married a virgin, and I love her very much, but the fact she was inexperienced and I was not has made our personal lives harder. Experience is valuable in all aspects of life. She might be able to teach you a thing or two.
2006-10-27 02:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by shapsjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should her past be any of her present guy's business. The matter of repentance and forgiveness is a very intimate matter, that is between God and her alone.
She is not even under obbligation to discuss her past with her present husband. If she does, that is her choice alone..but in doing so, she is placing great trust in her husband not to disrespect her or judge her in any way at all, for such personal things that she shares with her chosen confidant, best-friend, and life-time lover and sharer in the beautiful things of God's Word and Will.
The only question here really is: Does he have the maturity to hear whatever she chooses to say, ask no questions, and love her no less whole-heartedly than he did before?
2006-10-27 02:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Men are full of trickery when it comes to sex and relationships. They will lie and whatever to get what they want. Not saying you, but a lot of men and you should know that. So you should forgive and it does not matter if she is "saved" or not. She regrets things for them being wrong, not out of fear.
You also may not know the situations. She could have been going with each of them for a year or whatever. They could have been planning marriage, as you are. You never know, so don't lose a good person based upon that issue.
2006-10-27 02:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, the past should stay in the past for the most part. If God has forgiven her than far be it for me or anyone else not to. We all have baggage of some kind or another. It's about moving on and living in the here and now. Know what I mean?
2006-10-27 02:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by JohnC 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Not accepting Jesus Christ as ones personal savior is the biggest sin than one girl having sex with 100 different people.
If she repented and accepted Jesus Christ as her Personal Savior and Lord, her sins will be forgiven by God. then why cant a Christian?
If she continue the same way after being saved, her salvation is void ie she never repented her sins before God, but for some ones sake she took a decision.
This can never be accepted.
2006-10-27 02:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jac Tms 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm Christian but I'm not really against sex before marriage. However, from a theoretical standpoint, I think if a girl has had sex before but now repents, shouldn't she recieve a second chance? Why should she be marred for the rest of her life? And if you love the girl does it really matter if she's had sex before?
2006-10-27 02:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by darknemesis6969 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm a Christian woman, but if she's been abstinent since she got saved, her sin is under the Blood, just like yours and mine, right?
Thank God we serve a God who believes in second chances! (and 3rd, 4th 5th 6th 7th, and so on) Praise Him!!
2006-10-27 02:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
not if she is gonna be sorry about having sex, but at the same time I would not enjoy her telling me about how good it was. I would rather consider that she just had not met me yet and not think about it anymore..
2006-10-27 02:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
of course I would. It would be unrealistic to believe that all females and males save themselves for marriage. either before being saved or after.
2006-10-27 02:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋