That you feel like the world is on your sholders and if one more thing happens think it might be that straw that breaks the camals back i feel so lost and hurt these last couple days. He doen't realize how much i do for him. And he doen't see that i am bothered buy the things he does and doesn't do latly i have been left out and forgotten is the way i feel, we don't do things together cause when he gets home all he wants to do is play his games buy the time he is finished, i have already put baby to sleep and im in bed myself. how do i go about telling him that i want time for our family with out upsetting him? how do i tell him that family is a bout being together and everything else is extra?
2006-10-26 19:10:52 · 9 answers · asked by Shortie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how you feel, I am a mother too. It is hard to do it all yourself. I would try to talk to him about how overwhelmed you are feeling, but don't demand from him what you want from him. It is possible that he feels overwhelmed too. Consider all he might face: hard work, long hours, sole provider, financial issues, work issues, any of these can be very overwhelming. Do your part, don't sweat the small stuff, choose your "battles", and remember why you fell in love with this man in the first place. Good luck!
2006-10-26 19:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by kittykatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there in one form or another.... You're emotional as you have a baby, things will get better.... You both really need to talk, he sincerely needs to know how you feel.... The longer you leave it the harder it'll be....
Yes he feels that the game playing is a release from work and a wind down, but once they get involved in a game they seem to play all night... Been there seen it got the T-Shirt....
Go the room where he's play before he gets home and out a book or something in the room, get yourself a sexy nightgown and walk infront of him to collect that item and see if anything happens....
Organise a trip out to the park with your baby, ask him to come with you to look at something as you need his advise....
He's probably feeling left out as you're attention is now on the baby and not him... It's hard for a father as they feel left out probably more than you do.... So therefore it's hard for both side... Talking is the only advise I can offer.... He needs to know that you still love him and need him and like wise for you, you need to hear it and feel it....
Good luck, please talk and let him know.... Try not to upset yourself too much.... Other person to seek advise from is your midwife or doctor they might be able to offer you something....
2006-10-27 03:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you wrote is a good start, tell him how you feel. however do it with out pointing the finger. I feel this way when we don't have time together, lately I have been feeling overwhelmed, do you think we could play together or maybe a board game, adult conversation would be really nice> I feel like I have spoke baby talk all day.
...you just want to feel loved, needed and appreciated by your hubby you don't want to argue that would only make it worse
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Have you seen the movie Break Up....it gets the point across however they fight terrible and its ending isn't good...they weren't married or had children...however the plot and point is the same as what you are going through....feeling appreciated.
Best Wishes
2006-10-27 02:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you have told us as above lay it on the line and say that if its this bad now hows it gonna be in a few more years, both stuck in a rut not a good way to go.Suggest that you do something together a couple of nights a week thats time for you and him (and the babe) maybe a walk or put some music on and chat - if he loves you he will be prepared to make a effort to make things better for you both
2006-10-27 02:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Copy what you just wrote in your question, before he gets home, unplug the computer or game station so it doesn't work, and tell him after the baby's in bed, you guys need to talk about the fate of your family. It's going to be upsetting but this is already upsetting you, right? He needs to be upset. He needs a slap of reality.
2006-10-27 02:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by chnchita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been down this road, once you speak it and it doesn't change, play games with him, hide a piece to his Play Station, X-Box what ever it is and once he finds it make him earn the right to play it.. No what I mean.. It worked for me .. Try it and see what happens
2006-10-27 02:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there ...JUST tell him how you feel and what you want .
2006-10-27 03:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by HeineGal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be glad he's safely at home.
2006-10-27 02:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just, like that.........
2006-10-27 02:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by Chava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋