how can premarital sex be against god's will?

Question

why woulld god care if responsible consenting adults have sex without being married? How does it bring him glory that we should suffer impossible temptation like that? it seems like such an arbitrary demand. It is an inherent desire in humans. Why does sex have to be "bad" for you? the desire between two people who really care for each other, whether they are married or not, is innocent and pure. do you think that jesus is crying in heaven when two people have a close enough relationship that they want to give each other pleasure?

Answer 1

Premarital sex....When two people love one another, and they have sex...There is nothing wrong with that...However, there is a requirement to be chaste....

Now Chaste does NOT mean virgin, it means a relationship...Premarital sex was not condemned, BUT in the OT it does now mean the two folks are betrothed, engaged, going to be married.

The preacher man, or justice of the peace speaking the magic words over the couple, is a legal requirement of the state, showing that the two folks involved are legally married, but in the OT days, when preacher men might be scarce...It was acceptable for two folks to doink, just with the understanding, that now, in God's eyes, they are one flesh.

So, premarital sex isn't wrong, BUT being promiscuous IS wrong.

Hail Eris! All Hail Discordia!

Answer 2

Wow. So many answers suggesting you to rethink. Even those who aren't bringing God in are bringing in valid points. So I hope you are reading each one.

The temptation is strong, but do you think the temptation will dissappear after you do it. Probably not. You probably would be more tempted afterwards. You want to do it again and again. If you break up, then you'll want to find someone else to do it with. That natural desire is there all the time, but if you feed into or dance around it, you make it worse.

Is it as pure and innocent as you say? Is the desire telling you all you want to do is give her pleasure or is more about seeking pleasure for yourself?

God doesn't say you can't kiss, hug, hold hands, send eachother sickening e-mails, or be eachother's best friends.

Test yourself to see if you are ready to have sex:
1. If you get her pregnant, do you love her enough to change your life plans to take care of the baby.

2. If you get her pregnant, do you even have the resources to take care of a baby. (Parents don't count as a resource). If you can't, aren't you are being irresponsible.

Ask her the same questions.
1. Is she willing to risk getting pregnant? Even if she gets an abortion, this sometimes scars a person emotionally for life. Do you want to be partially responsible for that?

2. If she get pregnant, will she be willing to carry the baby to term and then give it up for adoption, instead of aborting it. If she isn't, do you think she is really ready for sex.

God is against premarital sex, because he cares about what it can lead to not just physically, but mentally and spiritually. You might both get lucky and none of things these people say will happen to you, but the odds aren't that good.

Answer 3

Sexual indulgence and experimentation before marriage may keep a relationship from going to a higher level. Developing a meaningful relationship takes time and work. In contrast, sex requires little time or effort.

We often hear that sex is okay between “consenting adults.” The question we don’t ask is, “Why did the adults consent?” People frequently consent for the wrong reasons and foolishly do things that cause regret later. Down the road, one partner may wonder if the other "loves" them just for the pleasure of sex, rather than personality, intelligence, etc.

If you wait until after marriage for sex, you are ensured that your partner is committed, loves you, wants to be with you more than just between the sheets, and you can have your cake and icing as well. Sex before marriage is icing only.

Answer 4

It is not very responsible to have sex without marriage. Marriage=responsibility. Who will be responsible for the child. There's gotta be 2 parents taking care of the baby. If there is no marriage between two people what's the difference between the guy walking down the street and the guy a woman is sleeping with. Come tomorrow the guy walking down the street could be sleeping with the woman and vice versa.

Answer 5

If the drug resistant STD's can't prevent you from waiting maybe this will.sex is something reserved for married couples, i mean women in particular get very emotinally after they have given up the butt and the man leaves. Or some men turn into stalkers. Plus having sex make you vulnerable spiritually.If the couple really cares about each other why not make that commitment. i mean sex is fun but its even better when you do it God's way.Its basically a safegurad from all the drama that happens from a bad break-up.

Answer 6

Sex is an expression of intimacy closest to God in creation - other than the Lord's Supper. Sex and sex alone shares the divine capacity for creation - for forming that where the ruach or Spirit of God can dwell.
Random sex degrades that to a mere physiological pleasure - nice, but ignorant of the true brilliance of the act. It can carry the consequence of children w/o parents who love one another.
Random sex is often about selfish pleasure for the one.
Random sex lacks the commitment of love which is a higher blessing God desires for us.
Random sex appears to be so fulfilling for us but it is ultimately about the me satisfaction.
Random sex lessens the odds for a lasting marriage drastically.
You mention impossible temptation - that is a warning in itself that it has enslaved you/someone.

Answer 7

Obviously you are not a religious person, so why are you questioning something you don't believe in?

Here is a quote from gotquestions.org that will hopefully explain a few things about God and why he forbids sex before marriage since you obviously have not read the Bible.

Sex before marriage has become so common for many reasons. Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing the “re-creation” aspect. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God designed it that way. He wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity (within the confines of marriage). However, the primary purpose of sex is not pleasure, but rather reproduction. God does not outlaw sex before marriage to rob us of pleasure, but to protect us from unwanted pregnancies and children born to parents who do not want them or are not prepared for them. Imagine how much better our world would be if God’s pattern for sex was followed: fewer sexually transmitted diseases, fewer un-wed mothers, fewer unwanted pregnancies, fewer abortions, etc. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly honors God.

Answer 8

There are plenty of reasons not to have premarital sex. Here are a few off the top of my head:

1) sexually transmitted disease which may lead to
a) infertility
b) serious health problems
c) death
2) unwanted pregnancy which may lead to
a) abortion
b) premature marriage
c) financial hardships for one or both parents
d) future family problems among step families
3) emotional aftereffects which may lead to
a) depression
b) low self esteem
c) problems with future mate
d) suicide

Regarding the temptation, we've got plenty of temptation in the world and certainly sex is what Satan uses most because its what works best. God provides us with everything we need to combat this form of temptation. We have prayer, Bible examples, warnings in the Bible, etc.

Answer 9

a) God says no

b) Scientific studies have shown that premarital sex is damaging to individuals and society, even when it is consensual.

c) If it is an impossible temptation, then you had better believe in God because the world is full of people, evidently with God's miraculous help, resisting this temptation successfully.

Answer 10

God hates sin,
he is pure,
He loves in pure sound love,
Why do people want to bring God into there lust of the flesh?
God gave you a choice, you chose to live your life the way you see fit, he is not there knocking down your head with his thoughts, he gave you his thoughts, called the Bible.
Romans cpt 8, Romans Chpt. 1 22-

Jesus walked the earth 33 years, and never sinned in a bed with a women.

If he did it and he said, him and God are one,
He expects us to be just like him.
Its a choice, you can or you don't have to.
But in the end,
His word is going to be the line, your life will judge you.
Not God.
He will take one look and if he can not see Jesus in you,
Your dead.
That simple.
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