Okay trying to find the right words to explain. Boyfriend and I been together for 2 yrs and a 1/2. He deployed to Iraq in Feb 06. He doing a year deployment. Since he's doing a whole year, they let him come home for two weeks. He just got here yesterday. He wants to go to the club tonight which is cool ( I have trust issues with him since before he left and he gave me reasons and i'm trying to work through them) anyways I have a good feeling he going to hook up with another girl (like actually going just to meet this one girl) I'm not ugly I work out not demading I take care of myself two jobs. I don't know what to say to him. Can someone please give a little guidance?
2006-10-26 18:49:14 · 6 answers · asked by fiestylady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him go where ever he wants to go. Eventually he is going to do what ever he wants anyway. If you do not trust him then it would be better to let him know about it before you do anything so that he knows what is really going on in your head. If you tell him then he can not use that as an excuse later on for anything. You have to do your part and be honest from the begining. So that later on if you do find out that he is cheating on you he has no easy way to blame you for anything. Cover your bases! I have learned from my past experiences that you can not force someone to stay in a relationship if they really do not want to be in it for real. Nothing can make them really stay either not money, not kids, not possessions if they want to leave they will find a way. So don't put yourself down over this. It might not be to much to worry about or loose sleep over anyway.
2006-10-26 19:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by J O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he just got back and already wants to go to a club there is something wrong . I think your feelings are right but it is hard for a woman to accept them sometimes . we always want to think positive and think evertthing is going to work out . If i were you I would let go before you get hurt . If you say you are good looking and have a good job trust me there is going to be someone for you it just takes time to find that right person
2006-10-27 01:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Denise B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see do the words WAKE UP kind of make you think something ain't right come on honey what is wrong with your mind.It sounds like you have low self esteem to bad because you probably are a pretty lady and a hard worker.
2006-10-27 02:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by hank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't over analyze. It causes more break ups and divorces than cheating. If you catch him , kick his a**. Until then, don't sweat it. When he comes home be in some sexy lingere and let him know you are glad he is back. Starting a fight about it will only make him want to cheat. If he is, give him a damn good reason to stay.
2006-10-27 01:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by LoquaciousFirehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm if hes cheating on you dump him you shouldnt be made to feel bad about yourslef even if you were fat and lazy and the worst girlfriend in the world if he didnt want to be with you he should end it not cheat. and he just got back and hes going to a club why didnt you go with him? you shouldnt be asking yourslef what is wrong with you rather what is wrong with him my suggestion get dressed and go have your own fun let him wonder where you are.
2006-10-27 01:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by heather d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly are you trying to accomplish? If you want to confront him about it do it now and get it out the way. If you are trying to dump him do it now and get it out the way. Either way just get it out the way!!
2006-10-27 01:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by awhisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋