2006-10-26 18:31:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I cannot fathom the pain and devastation I would have if my daughter took her own life. Please, If you are considering this as an option, do not do this, tell someone what you are thinking about, get help.
2006-10-26 19:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by kittykatty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only assume that since you are asking, you or someone you know may be thinking about suicide. Life gets really tough sometimes and believe it or not all of us living and breathing can testify to that. Suicide may seem like the best way to end all problems, but it only creates problems. The biggest problem that lingers after a suicide is the WHAT IFs? What if we had done this? What if he/she had talked about or asked about that?
Suicide leaves too many questions that only the dead person can answer. Now is that fair? No. Give life and the people around you a chance to help you or your friend(s) get through lifes challenges. Can't talk to your parents, then talk to your school counselor, or any mental health expert. In answer to your question - yes parents would be devastated because they didn't have a chance to work on making right what a child thought was wrong. As children, you ask for second chances. You promise not to do something again. So why not give parents the same consideration you want. Parents aren't perfect, eventhough you think we are. We are learning too - everyday is a new experience no matter how many children we've raised because each child is different. You have done the right thing by writing and asking about this topic. I hope you and your friends will continue to keep in touch as I and many others are here to answer any and all questions you have. Life can and will be better. Give it a chance. Good Luck!
2006-10-31 09:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Cecelia G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally can not say and would not want to say how devastated a parent is by their child's suicide. As a parent I do not want to have to bury any of my children and I think most parents feel this way as well. I personally would be devastated but my religious beliefs do not allow me to entertain suicide and I pray that my children do not entertain that thought as well. I hope this is a hypothetical questions and not something being considered. No parent deserves to deal with the heavy burden of having had a child taken by suicide.
2006-11-02 06:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very, in fact as every ones human there are no guarantees how long anyone will live. Parents have no guarantees how long their sons/daughters live whether buy suicide, accident, natural causes. I do think people need to be more care full how they treat their family members, what you say or do just before they step out the door may be the last. I've known a few people over the years who've committed suicide and if survivors called them a name etc. that is what they dwell on after they are gone.
2006-10-27 06:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents cannot ever imagine their children dying, leave alone their own dying., and hence when the death is accidental, they are completely destroyed, and take a lot of time to recuperate, if at all. more so with suicides, because no one really expects any person , atleast their own children to hide their feelings from the parents, and not trust them. Suicide shows that you do not trust.
Do not ever attempt suicide, since it is only running away from your own belief and destroying your own self confidence -or whatever has been left of that.
2006-11-03 05:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by pandchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things we don't know in this world, and some things that we do. One of the things we know is that everything changes - absolutely NOTHING stays the same. This is particularly true of situations, so if there is a bad situation, you can do something to change it.
One of the things we don't know is what happens after we die. There is no solid evidence that the thing that is you will continue in any form (besides the decomposing physical). So do this thought experiment: Pretend that you KNOW there is no heaven, no hell, no reincarnation. Pretend that this life is IT for you. Now, what are you going to do with it? Do you really have nothing at all to offer the world? Do you want your only legacy to be pain (that will cease after a few years or when your parents die)?
Give yourself a chance and see where this wild adventure takes you!
2006-11-02 16:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by Wonderland 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's something they NEVER get over!They will blame themselves,because they always think they should've seen signs.
Children dying before parents goes against the laws of nature.I lost my brother to alcohol,that has been 16yrs ago,and it's still very tough on my parents.His death was very close to a suicide,because he had been told time and time again that the drinking would kill him.He chose to die.From a sisters point of view,I think about him every day.He was my big brother,and for the longest time we were inseparable.
I certainly hope and pray that this is not you that's thinking about it.Honey, there is nothing in this world worth taking your life for.Please go and talk to someone.If you're depressed there is medication that can make you feel better.I've been through allot in my life,and there were times I wished I wasn't here.But I thank God that I never did anything about it.Because my life is so much better than I ever could've imagined.God dosen't put anything more on us than we can handle,and allot of times we have to go through hard times to learn lessons.
If you don't feel like you can talk to anyone,please email me.If it's not you thats thinking about this,and it's a friend.You owe it to your friend to tell anyone you can to stop him/her.
But,I'm serious if you want to please email me.I'm in Calif. and I don't know where you live,but I wake up at 7:a.m. and I check my emails first thing.Just please don't do anything.You have more people in this world than you can possibly imagine that loves you.Every person you have come in contact with in your life,in some way you have touched them.So,not only will your parents be DEVESTATED,but so will so many others.
I'm praying for you,and for God to bless you,and comfort you.If it's you thats thinking about this,I hope to hear from you soon.God bless.
I just wanted to add something,you are questioning this by reaching out,and that is a very brave thing to do.Just take it a step further and keep reaching. I just went through and read what others have written to you,and all these people here on this site care enough about you to offer solutions.None of us want to see you do this.We're all strangers to each other,but we share a common bond,the love of our fellow man,YOU!!
2006-10-27 01:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by LEJIANE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's horrible. My brother in law committed suicide in August. My father in law and mother in law are having a terrible time with it even though they have 7 other boys. Not to say that the other children are a "replacement", but it's hard for my mother in law to even take care of the younger two children that still need her. Suicide is a terrible thing to do to people, it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem!
2006-10-27 01:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by someoneoutthere 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everybody loses in a case like this. Most likely the parents will divorce, other siblings will be devistated, Many lives will be ruined.
I know a family where this happened and years later the mother is still devistated, the parents split, the father now says "The kid had problems, and the siblings talk of the dead child with distain for destroying the family.
2006-11-04 00:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son's friend Andrew, 25, just committed suicide on Monday, October 30. EVERYONE who knew Andrew is devastated. We all wish that we could have turned the clock back and prevented this tragedy. No words can describe the grief, guilt and helplessness EVERYONE feels. If only someone knew what was going on his mind, they would have done absollutely everything within their power to help him. He had his whole life ahead of him. Sometimes bad feelings seem like they will never go away and bad situations seem like they will never get better but they really do. Problems are temporary but suicide is permanent. Please tell someone and allow them to help you if you are considering suicide. Give someone that chance to help you. Please let someone help you. Your friends and family will be so thankful that you make this good, positive choice.
2006-11-02 15:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by sa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To the point where they (the parents) want to commit suicide! It's very devastating and should not be used just for that purpose.
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide I feel strongly you should call this number: 1 (800) SUICIDE or 1-800-784-2433.
2006-10-27 01:36:42 · answer #11 · answered by .vato. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋