Got out of a 4 year relationship, found myself flirting with this woman and realized I should be honest with myself and end things on a good term since I wasn't as happy as I should be, leaving hope for the future.
I went on several dating sites, and the woman on there are shallow; that or I'm jealous because I don't look like a thug or convicted serial rapist. I really want to have a woman to love. All the woman that have talked to me somewhat online haven't responded after a short conversation or two. Women & men, advice?
2006-10-26 18:23:26 · 10 answers · asked by bloodsanctum 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys are giving me some awesome answers, thank you :)
2006-10-26 18:43:56 · update #1
My cousin belongs to several different online dating services and she says the same thing about men that you say about women.
I may be wrong, but I think most of the folks who use those things are "serial daters" and it seems that dishonesty is almost a given. My advice would be to let your friends know that you are back on the market, take a class, join a gym, find a church with a singles group if you are a believer, and never turn down a wedding invitation - great place to meet people and they are (almost) always fun, positive affairs.
Most of all, RELAX - you're young; concentrate on learning more about who you are, what makes you happy, what your goals are, etc. I know it's a cliche, but it's a cliche firmly based in reality; the best relationships present themselves when you're not obssessed with finding one.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 18:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by isaidno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look the first thing you should do is set yourself up to be in places where ther are men who respect virginity. Your not gona find that at a rock concert, night club or a kama sutra school lol. Try please like church, charity organizations(the best place to meet respectful men because any man that can give unselfishly and not ask anything in return is a keeper for you). Trust me i know where u are coming from cause i was there myself(im a male virgin but much older than u). Just be picky about who you date. What i dont understand about most female virgins is that they dont care how many men their potential guy has been with in the past. This is called reverse hypocrisy and one reason why alot of marriages fail. Start demanding that your men be clean as well. Be proud of your virginity girl!!!!!!!!!!!
2016-03-28 08:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you got out of a 4 year relationship so yeah things are going to be tough for you. First off, dating sites dont really do anything much so yeah. I suggest you give 2 weeks and fully get over your ex girlfriend and are ready to date again. When your confident, go to some bars and nightclubs and there should be women there.
2006-10-26 19:05:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no faith whatsoever in on line dating or meetings.. the best of relationships always grow out of shared interest, in real life situations..so go to a class about some subject you love, week after week, and there you'll slowly grow to know that group of new people..
Go to anyplace regularly at the same time...a gym...a class, a church, a park , or even a store to shop, and slowly , you'll meet real people, that you have something in common with...
Stop using your computer to meet people. The very paradigm of intimacy is violated by this avenue you are attempting.. Can you see what I'm saying?
2006-10-26 18:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Golfcarmel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your desperation can be smelt from a mile away... you have it take it easy. you're probably suffering from co-dependency, having lost long term, major emotional support. you're only 20, doubt you've had life figured out. in time to come, you'll probably realize bachelorhood has its plus points. meanwhile, you can still love your family and friends.
2006-10-26 18:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by janicebks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to figure out who you are. There is nothing hotter than a guy who can say, " this is who I am, if you don't like it you can go f**k yourself." and don't try to be overly nice, it seems more "hey, I want to be your best friend and NEVER touch you sexually." all I'm saying is know who you are.
2006-10-26 18:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by LoquaciousFirehawk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girls are the new "guys" they are just looking to bust a nut take advantage of it you just got out off a relationship. get your rocks off a little before you decide to commit again
2006-10-26 18:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by theforecast_124 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look so hard. I tried for four months to conviene my friend I didn't want to be set up with her other friend. We both had mutual feelings of no, I don't want to be set up.
Guess what neither of us were looking for romance/love, but it found us. Thanks to a match maker.
2006-10-26 18:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by washington_maverick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe a dating site isn't right for you
2006-10-26 18:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋