wat to do?sick thing bah!!!!!!feeling suicidal..........?

Question

i'm a 20 yr old gal pursuing journalism .........my prblm is that my bro is too jealous of me and has come up with rumours that i'm dating some one and the most important thing here is that my parents are orthodox...and believewat ever that bloody idiot speaks out.......yestday thr was a big fight in my home fr this and i told them that if i wish to date i will do it bt i'm nt like that......plz help

Answer 1

If you are 20 years old, you are old enough to date. What's the problem?

Answer 2

I don't think suicide is that selfish. It's foolish people who say so. The people who kill themseleves or are suicidal usually think they're just causing people problems, and that people must want them to die or go away because they don't notice the obvious signs that they're suicidal. They kill themselves because they're in a horrible amount of emotional pain and no one seems to care, or things just seem like they'll never get better. It pisses me off so much when people say people are stupid for having mental health problems, especially when they don't understand how it feels at all. I used to be severely depressed on-and-off for about a year in total (of being depressed), throughout middle school, and I've been depressed a few more times in high, though not severly, and I definitely seriously considered suicide a lot of the time (in middle school). I wanted to keep living, but I was so unhappy and thought that I was the problem after a while, that I believed that, even though I thought my family might still be sad, they'd be happier without me. Not surprisingly, I even told my parents that I was depressed and thought about suicide (took me about a year to get up the courage), but they got really mad at me and said it was stupid, or my dad would go off on another scary rant about how I was a horrible kid. My dad was the main reason I became so depressed, because he was always telling me that it was my fault he was depressed, my fault the family was falling apart, etc., and that I was lazy and selfish, etc., and after a while, my mom and brother seemed to stop caring much about me. My brother actually started taking my dad's side for a few months, and that was what almost really pushed me over the edge. I didn't have any close friends or anything at the time, and by then I already had social anxiety disorder, so I felt very alone and neglected, and hated. I dressed horribly during middle school, and people were even avoiding sitting at the same table as me, or they would openely complain about having to be partners in a project with me, while I was standing just a few feet away. I was always polite and nice to them, too...My whole life was just complete **** back then. That's why I'm so into mental health now. I have seen and experienced people who need help and are reaching out be rejected, and just as often mocked, for trying to find that help. Kids at school who are made fun of for being odd, dressing odd, being overweight, cutting themselves, or whatever, are very often the ones who are waiting for people to realize that something is wrong, because asking directly is too frightening, and they think they'll be rejected, which they usually seem to be.

Answer 3

Your question has brought me back allot of years and I am old enough to be your parent. I at 54 years old now help raise my own grand children and I have seen and been Thur allot of things in my life. I had a family of 7 oother brothers and sisters and it seemed that no matter what I did they always told things that were not true and my father always believed them. I tried to set there and explain to them just what was going on but it seemed to go in one ear and out ther other. So I found myself a way to be who I wanted to be and that way no one could say any thing that would bother me at all and I would look at them and smile. I never dated until I was 20 because I wanted to be by myself but I helped allot of people out of my own age. As a young man I found that by writing my feelings and thoughts into a log and also I started to write my poems in it also which I still write to this day. By doing this it helped me find ways to get Thur some of those rough times when people made up things about you. You have to find out which Way your spirit guide wants to guide you so that you are happy with yourself and not making others making your life awful because it makes them feel like they have control over you. So may you find that happy medium that you need to become what you are looking for and good luck.

Answer 4

your problem has nothing to do with journalism or any other job- or with your parents being orthodox. i'm an orthodox myself and as far as i know there's nothing wrong about dating someone when you're 20. do you have any control of your own life and opinions? because if you don't you should think about getting it!
we make our own choices in life and if they are bad it's only our own fault.
you are probably more upset with your brother telling lies about you- don't mind him, he's immature and mean.he will have his own life and see it's nasty when you interfere with someone's life.
as long as it doesn't affect your studies, you can date whoever you want. and don't let anybody tell you what you can do or cannot- it's your life at this point.

Answer 5

Dear friend (if you allow me to call you a friend)
First of all get the "Suicidal" thing out of your mind. By no means on earth shud a person pursuing journo. shud be as coward as to commit suicide, it is shear cowardry.
Things that are perplexed even more by arguments are better soted out by calm talks (believe me ). I too have a sis ( ironically puruing journo. too!) and she too often gets the feeling that I am jalous of her and feels that our parents love and trust me more, BUT THIS ISN'T THE TRUTH. Believe me I care for her a lot and am sure that ur bro too cares for you. We guys are just too arrogant (geeks! I am admitting this) to tell how much we love, and are conservative, he might have got a wrong notion that u are seeing sumone and didn't want u to end up being troubled thus told to parents. TRUST ME DEAR! and go to your parents talk to them calmly and bet they will listen (after shouting a bit, u know them ; don't you?). This life is too small and precious to be wasted thinking about suicides (don't dare do it again) and hating your near ones, even if by any chance they don't love you.( but actually they do love you!!!:-)
TAKE CARE
Sincerely
Raj

Answer 6

u just concentrate on ur studies and on ur professional life as soon u get married u will be shifting to a new family ther also will be lots of compromises u will have to do so instead of wasting time thinking about ur brother focus on ur studies and for a good /understanding life partner,that is more inportant as if ur family is orthodox,no one can change,let them be like this ,u ll have to start a new life try to make that best.

Answer 7

Not sure what you're looking for here. You are 20 years old!! You're parents have no say in your life. As for your brother, he sounds like a juvenile pain. Ignore him & he'll get bored. If this makes you suicidal, talk to a therapist asap!

Answer 8

I suggest sitting down and talking with your parents, and especially your brother. Siblings fight all the time, but it is important to remember that you are part of the same team. If something good happens to one, then it should be as if it has happened to both of you. I know it's hard, but you'll get through it.

Answer 9

your 20 your allowed to date

Answer 10

I don't know what the orthodox thing means... but you are 20, if you want to date, so what....