I was away for 12 days and when i came back i knew something was different but he was still telling me he loved me etc. 3 weeks later i went on his msn and was speaking to the girl he cheated with and found out everything. she spent the night at his house, after he had a party they were both very drunk, i mean he was vomiting all night but they hooked up 4 times. he didnt tell me this he told me that they pecked for 5 secs and then he went to bed coz he felt too guily. 1 kiss is a mistake 4 times isnt. They were in a bed togther hooked up for a few hrs. wat should i do i still love him, and he tells me he loves me...but if he really loved me why would he do it?
2006-10-26 18:16:10 · 13 answers · asked by flctythms 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they only kissed 4 times, sorry they didnt have "sex" or anything. but who knows what could have happened. im still in shock i only just found out about the incident on sunday but he only admited it to me last night. he says he "needs me" and cant be without me. i want to be with him but i also have too much self respect to forgive that behaviour. im so torn.
2006-10-26 18:25:54 · update #1
Are you willing to tolerate this kind of behavior? Is it okay for him to MOSTLY be with you but sometimes be with someone else? Is there any justification for this?
This one is harder: have you ever suspected him before? Have there been times when you thought he might have been more interested in someone else than you liked?
I suspect you already know the answer to your question... are you trying to get someone to talk you out of what you know you should do?
2006-10-26 18:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that. I hopre that this doesn't change the way you see men. Unfortunately he broke your trust by cheating on you. If he really loved you he wouldn't have lied to you. Or kissed more than once or hooked up. He obviously does not respect you or treasure your love. But you need to find a new man. One that will truly love you and treat you right. It will be hard but you can make it.
2006-10-26 18:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have some effects you will might desire to stay with using fact of your judgements. you will probable no longer get him back, and that i'm unsure why you're so desperate for him. in keeping with possibility you're merely desiring a guy-- any guy. Be clever. You stated he dealt with you like crap once you have been merely dating, then once you had an outstanding component going with somebody else, you dumped them to be with a similar guy you dealt with you crappy, merely using fact he proposed. you do no longer probable love him. you purely don't want a failed marriage. you're able to desire to be certain it extremely is greater significant-- being married and depressing, or being on my own and happy. Your son desires a mom-- no longer a vulnerable, desperate tramp who strikes from guy to guy. What are you coaching him approximately relationships??
2016-11-25 22:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by getts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he crossed the line that you felt he should have known, believed in and understood, then wish him well with the girl he slept with.
However, if the boundaries were not clear and he truly cares about you (loves you), he needs to apologize (grovel) would be better and you guys need to sit down and hash it out.
If he doesn't want to talk about it, you have your answer.
2006-10-26 18:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a Cheater always a Cheater.
He didn't respect you enough to keep his pants up. There is little room for love with out respect.
2006-10-26 18:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by washington_maverick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to get out, I don't care how drunk someone is they can still remember that they're in a relationship and that what they are about to do is wrong. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, it doesn't cause amnesia.
2006-10-26 18:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by Deleted 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its still cheating even if sex isn't involved. If you don't have kids I'd dump his stupid *** and find a real man who will treat you right. Not all men cheat.
2006-10-29 13:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by a really long name on yahoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just a kiss I think its forgivable.If he actually did the wild thing its time to call him your ex boy friend.If he did it once he will do it again the next time you go away .
2006-10-26 18:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by Steve S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He couldn't stay loyal for 12 days? How will he keep you for a lifetime?
2006-10-26 18:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts now. . .but think how much it will hurt when he cheats on you after you've been together for years.
Get out now and keep your self-respect.
2006-10-26 18:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by BasketChick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋