I keep asking this girl im talking 2 out and she always duckin me on it, we talk alot text and all that, im totally honest with her all the time I have told her just tell me if she doesnt want to chill then just tell me, but instead i get retarded excuses all the time and the "im goin through alot of stuff right now" but we continue to talk to each other all the time, what the hell is going on? very frustrating
2006-10-26 17:30:30 · 21 answers · asked by hennys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is dragging you along, because you are her back up.
2006-10-26 17:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It indeed sounds like she does not want to go out, but don't make an assumption that it is necessarily a personal matter with you.
She may actually not feel ready to date anyone -- heck, she might even be scared to death of it! She may actually have a lot of things happening in her personal life that you may not even be aware of.
You say that the two of you talk a lot -- since when is that a bad thing? She may feel the need to get to know you a little more before she will say yes to you; that is perfectly normal and okay. Take the time to do so, give her plenty of room. Listen to her and be there for her if she needs you, just don't push her; she may appreciate that gesture more than you know.
Yeah, it can be frustrating, but don't be in a hurry (and don't show her that you are frustrated, either). Okay?
2006-10-26 17:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pretend to be interested in someone else, take it from me... if she likes you, the roles will reverse and she will start jocking you; but... if she is only interested in you as a friend, she will not really care. Just back off a little bit. You are too available & this can come off as being a bit desperate. I love a guy that is a challenge, so as a woman I'm telling you that repeating how you feel about her is turning her off. As I've said before, let her think you lost interest in her for another chick & she will come to you with different feelings to show you that she wants you... IF THAT'S THE CASE!!! Try it and see. It won't hurt to try!!!
2006-10-26 17:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont stop talking to her .. just lay off the asking out questions .. ask her what is going on show that you are interested in knowing what is going on in her life and if she says she doesnt want to talk about then just let it go... be there for her right now.. but if she keeps putting you on then maybe you should lay off for alittle while take a break from texting and talking ... but if she is genuinely going thru some things help her out..but above all dont let her led you on... thats just going to cause more problems.. you need to talk to her about..maybe she just needs a friend .. or maybe shes just being a you know what.. but test her and see what happens. i hope i didnt confuse you ... i hope i helped alittle bit.. GOOD LUCk
2006-10-26 17:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by netty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes the attention and is using you for her own self esteem.
She has no intention of dating you...unless of course you ignore her...then she will seem interested again. Shes playing games with you and basically using you as back up when she needs an ego boost. Do you really want a woman you have to convince to date you? Keep on keepin on...
2006-10-26 17:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she isn't sure of what she feels. She is seeking a friendship in you and that can be good for you when she decides that she is ready for that step. I am married to my "sholder to cry on". He was there for me during a very difficult time in my life and we fell in love.
Anything is possible in this world!
2006-10-26 17:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by lil_love1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think either she like you chasing her, which will lead to a you give and she never does partnership or she really doesn't like you but keeps talking to you because she pities you and doesn't want to hurt your feeling because she doesn't want to look like the bad guy. Anyway you sound like a good guy you deserve way better
2006-10-26 17:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by SIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never gonna happen. what she tells you is an easy way of letting you down. if she liked you, past sh!t wouldnt matter. she only sees you as a friend. she is trying to let you down easy cos she still wants a friendship with you. she like dumping all her sh!t on you. if you cant handle being just friends with her, cuit back on the talking and stuff. you will only get more fustrated.
2006-10-26 17:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey she is just not that into you. Move on, a lot of times when you are less interested in her, she will respond to you. But why waste time with someone who plays games?
2006-10-26 17:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Robyn C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are on the waiting list. Maybe she is going out with someone and waiting to see how it turns out and you are the back up plan.
2006-10-26 17:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by ciaotutti1027 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go
Sorry but don't push so hard, just be there but don't metion it again.
Look for someone else but keep friends with her if she is willing but don't get hung up on her, it will only hurt you
2006-10-26 17:33:14 · answer #11 · answered by Karce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋