2006-10-26 17:10:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only if you are 34 and the older person too.
2006-10-26 17:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a matter of "right or wrong" as long as you are not a minor. There is a reason that is illegal, because the older person's motives become questionable...you could be in harms way without realizing it.
However, the younger the youngest person is, the greater the differences in life experience and perspective. That will bring unavoidable conflict as that person grows and changes, usually dooming a long term relationship (no, not always).
It affects daily interaction because of the difference in realistic expectations, responsibilities, priorities, mutual interests and common ground. Where will that leave you when the novelty wears off?
If both are adults with established lives and a solid knowlege base then the age difference minimizes as their ages increase. The chronological gap will always be 20 years, but maturity will lessen the contrast and conflict.
There is an old addage that goes something like, "Get 'em while they're young and train "em the way you want them to be!" This usually works to the advantage of the older person because they are dominant and submit the control...often at the expense of the younger person's healthy development and sense of self.
Question why an "oldster" wants to be with a "youngster"... and why a "youngster" would want to be under another "parent". I can't think of a reasonable answer.
Your writing says you are young. Though it is not the answer you want to hear...I recommend you keep your distance! There are just so many reasons for you to not expose yourself to a relationship unhealthy like this.
If any of your friends have told you it is "sick", "wrong", "gross" "stupid" "creepy" etc, or if your parent(s) would not allow it... then you are right to decide it is "wrong" for you. Please do not let "love" or the promise of "taking you away" from "whatever", fool you into going off with this person. You could end up with a pedophile or worse!
Be smart! THINK this through with your brain...not your heart or libido!
2006-10-27 01:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by ladyquesteur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age as someone 20 years older is not wanting to do the things you would want. Most men that much older just want to chew you up and spit you out. Not worth it. Sure the older man is fascinating as he has done so much but if he is interested in say a 16 year old and he is 36 then remember he wants only one thing. When you are 40 he will be 60 not worth it
2006-10-27 00:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by vfpam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, depending on where the age difference is. obviously if both parties are over the age of 18, then no, its not wrong. its a personal choice, with alot of girls, older men are the only people they can really relate to on a relationship level
2006-10-27 00:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by dejiko316 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before and i didn't think there was anything wrong with it but now i feel violated and dirty like what kind of person would date someone young enough to be their child. I wouldn't recommend it.
2006-10-27 00:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The culture gap may be too big to bridge
2006-10-27 00:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not...If you love the person, I don't see anything wrong. Besides, it is no one's business but your own.
2006-10-27 00:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way age is just # as long as you love each other go for it
2006-10-27 00:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not if you love them and they love you no of course not
2006-10-27 00:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tis always ok if your related otherwise its uncivilized
2006-10-27 00:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by elhombrecarro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋