Worried and maybe being watched?

Question

This is going to be kinda of long and I will probably have to post additional details but please bare with me, I really need advice.

My eldest son's father has been contacting me recently and has got me worried. Part of my worry is that he's a wanted murderer. A week and a half after his son was born I found out that he had broke into one of his coworkers house and stabbed her to death, and then fled the country. Even worse they approximated that she died only 2 days after our son was born. They never found out why he did it, and obviously they never took him into custody. The reason for that was by the time they found him he was already back in his home country and his country refused to hand him over to the authorities. Now this is where my other worries come from. When he first started to call again it was just simple 5 minute calls asking how his son was. Now they are getting to the point where he is questioning me about things, some of which I haven't told him.

He knows things that there is know way he can know them. I told him about my new baby coming and my fiance. But somehow he also found out that my baby was a boy, he even knew my son's name! I never told him that! Since he has been gone we have also gotten a new car, he knows what kind of car it is and the color! He just keeps saying things and asking things that I never told him, and this worries me. I know he has family still here, as well as some very loyal friends. With all these things he is saying its making me wonder if he is having me watched. He even knew that my fiance was put in jail only a couple weeks ago over a missed court date! All I want to do is protect my kids, and the way hetalks makes me wonder what he is planning. Should I call the police and warn them? What should I do? What would you do? Please, please, advice needed.

I don't know if he could have come back. He says he hasn't but its impossible for me to know. The calls show up unknown, and that could be anywhere.

Answer 1

Contact the police, or the FBI, if necessary. With just the details you've given, it sounds like a frightening situation, and I would think you'd be wise to get a restraining order and let the FBI know, as I'm sure they could find out what's going on for you. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

I am kind of in the same situation as you my ex went to jail for murder 2 days after our daughter was born. So I know how you feel if you call the police this could just piss him off more and he may want to hurt you more than he does now right????? I have been told to get a restraining order and full custody of my kids and I guess thats what I am suppose to tell you too, but its not that easy right???? I know I guess I am just here to say your not alone.

Answer 3

Yes, definitely call the police and any other authority until you find someone who will help you! Are the calls still coming from outside the country? If not, turn him in at once! Protect yourself and your child by any means possible. I do hope they lock him away and you're both safe. If you don't already have, install the best security system you can afford, or maybe move and leave no forwarding info. Best of luck to you both.

Answer 4

First I would have called the police the first time he contacted me. Second if you really want to protect your kids stop dating men who are in and out of jail. I'm not judging, my kids dad is in jail now, I'm just saying if it was a simple ticket he didn't pay or something OK. You have to stop and think if you may be entering the same sort of situation! I am scared for you call the police, even if it is others watching you that's creepy! If he's crazy his friends probably are too, I mean they are watching you!!! PS mine is in jail for shooting someone, I do understand!

Answer 5

You need to call the police. They can run phone taps and protect your son and yourself. This is important not only for your family's saftey but for everyone's saftey. It may not be you or he may not kill again but what would you feel if he ended up hurting someone else and you could have (possibly) prevented it.

I can only tell you that. I don't know how it feels to be in your place and pray to God I will never find out. I really wish you the best of luck but you need to contact the police.

Answer 6

You need to immediately contact your local police and make sure they know he is wanted for murder and make sure they know he is an internationally wanted man...

You should have made the first call the second he first contacted you as you were instructed to do when he first dissappeared.. One of the things the poice will do is ask you to contact them should he contact you... and they periodically check with you to see if he has contacted you...

Why would you wait for several calls to contact the police you know this is a dangerous man and you know you should have contacted the police immediately... Anyone who has watch even one crime show on television knows they always want you to contact them if you are contacted by the wanted person... DUH!!!

While I want to believe someone couldn't be stupid enough to not contact the police I also want to believe no one would make up a story such as this as a lie... Either way you are not the brightest bulb in the string...

Answer 7

HI, AND GOD BLESS. CALL AND REPORT THIS TO THE POLICE.9 TIMES OUT OF 1 THEY WILL TACK YOU INTO PROTECTIVE CUSTODY OR TAKE YOU TO A SHELTER WHERE YOU WILL BE SAFE. HOPEFULLY YOU ARE NOT AT HOME WAITING FOR THESE ANSWERS.
ONCE IT IS DECIDED THAT HE STILL IS OUT OF THE COUNTRY YOU NEED TO MOVE.THAT IS WHERE THE POLICE AND SHELTER WILL ALSO COME IN HANDY BECAUSE THEY SHOULD ALSO HELP YOU ON FIGURING OUT WERE TO GO.

Answer 8

That's a silly question! A wanted murderer is contacting you and you wonder if you should call the police??? You should be on the phone with them now instead of on yahoo answers!!

Answer 9

u should really contact the police and let them tab the phones and stuff, if he can kill one women he can kill another. u never know if he'll go after u and kidnap your son, take him back to his country and u never see him again or u possibly get killed. this kind of stuff happens everyday people just dont realize it until its really bad. get some help now!! you dont want to another victim in a bodybag from murder, and u want to protect your son from any kind of vilence, men/women have been known to kill children in situations like this too , be careful.

Answer 10

if he knows things about you that you havnt told him i would stop taking the calls even if it hurts and go to the police and if you have a cell keep it on hand at all times if you dont and you are able too get a cheap pre-paid minute phone and use it on emergancies