i have a question for christians (i am a christian 2)?

Question

First off let me say im not a very good christian, but i try my best. well anyways, i started going to this new church a couple of months ago( 4), and nobody seems to be reachin out 2 me and being nice, mostly everybody mean mugs me, i would understan if i have said something but i havent opened my mouth. i smile politely and everything. question is this: if we christians are suppose to be all nice and friendly, why is this going on?? i am hispanic, and i go to a hispanic church, just thought i mention it cause every race's church is different.

Answer 1

Try a international church or be the first to initiate conversation or talk to ur pastor.

Shalom

Answer 2

I recently experienced the same thing at a little church in the corner. Smaller churches can be insular and perhaps not as open to new comers as bigger churches. Actually, I stopped going to this church because it was so cold and mean. The Pastor is great and so is a small core of church workers, but the the congregation as a whole is stone cold. I'm talking no eye contact or anything. The couple of months that I went, not a single one of them answered the altar call for salvation, prayer, or anything else. The last Sunday I attended I anwered the altar call for prayer after a Spirit filled visiting preacher gave a tremendous testimony. He put it all out there. I was the only one, it was kind of awkward. I don't think I'll be going back, but I will remember to pray for the little church on the corner.
No offense to anyone, but the congregation was predominantly Cuban.

Answer 3

Some churches are more friendly than others. Try a different one. Small ones especially are eager for new people. The larger ones, not so much. So try a small congregation. Sunday School classes are smaller, so the people would get a chance to know you and not just wonder who you are. Some big churches have an early service with more young people there, so you might try that also.

Answer 4

Some churches are not friendly and some are. You just need to find a church that suits what you need. Some people don't want a church to be too friendly, just depends where you are at in your life. I am lucky that the church I am in is very loving and I hope it continues to be that way. But years ago I did not want people to hug me and stuff like that. God has brought me along ways and maybe it is that you are too far along for this church. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 5

That sounds a bit strange. Maybe you should try another church. If you don't want to do that, or you do and find the same sort of thing is happening, you should go to God with it in prayer. It may be that this is a test for you. You shouldn't need other peoples smiling faces in order to feel accepted or affirmed. Just realize that He accepts you and loves you unconditionally. As you mature in Him, you will come to realize this truth more and more.

Answer 6

Unfortunately the theory does not always walk with practice. Good people doesn't mean Christians. Also the reasons why people are cold to you may be even really stupid. People can hate you for anything, even for hair cut, your dress... If you don't ask them you will never know. Somehow most of people loose ability to start conversation with others. Simple "Hi, my name is ... I would like to ask you a question if you don't mind?" just cant get through mouth. Reasons - many, consequences - simple and leading to regret and misunderstanding. If people don't want to talk with each other and meet others better world will always go where he is going now...

Answer 7

Sadly, many churches out there are caught up in their own pre-existing small groups. I've seen it. Sometimes you just have to push your way into a group that might share your interests, like a Sunday school class or a ministry. Many do not feel it is worth it and they just hop from church to church. It's more of a struggle than it should be.

Good luck in your quest.

Answer 8

People are not kind just because they are in a building called church. You have not found the right community, meaning the people within the church. I think I will go with people not knowing you and perhaps not wanting to. Find somewhere else, of ask someone.....

Answer 9

As for how and why people at the church treat you with some disdain I cannot explain. It seems you may be picking up some sub-liminal messages concerning how they treat you. Intuitive people can pick up on this kind of thing.

As a Catholic, having an attitude toward someone like this is a sin. The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches:

Christ's disciples have "put on the new man, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness." [Eph 4:24] By "putting away falsehood," they are to "put away all malice and all guile and insincerity and envy and all slander." [Eph 4:25 & 1 Pet 2:1]

Respect for the reputation of persons forbids every attitude and word likely to cause them unjust injury. [CIC Can 220] He becomes guilty:
- of rash judgment who, even tacitly, assumes as true, without sufficient foundation, the moral fault of a neighbor;
- of detraction who, without objectively valid reason, discloses another's faults and failings to persons who did not know them; [Sir 21:28]

- of calumny who, by remarks contrary to the truth, harms the reputation of others and gives occasion for false judgments concerning them.

When someone has been wrongly treated in such ways the Church teaches the following:

Every offense committed against justice and truth entails the duty of reparation, even if its author has been forgiven. When it is impossible publicly to make reparation for a wrong, it must be made secretly. If someone who has suffered harm cannot be directly compensated, he must be given moral satisfaction in the name of charity. This duty of reparation also concerns offenses against another's reputation. This reparation, moral and sometimes material, must be evaluated in terms of the extent of the damage inflicted. It obliges in conscience.

Answer 10

Well, if you carry the "Dark Angel" presence with you when you go to church that might explain some of it.

Your Engish is good enough you should not have any qualms about going to an ordinary church. Try a couple different ones and see what happens.
There ARE some Christians out there who aren't judgemental.
give them a chance..................dark angel,.........