I'm 35 years old iam divorced and i met a guy that i fell in love with. we have broken off of the realationship alot.. Why to me he is to slef centerd. When i want to talk to him it seems to me he dont lissen to me at all . Becouse he interrups me and he talks about him self right aways after i start talking and trying to tell him how i feel. So now I do love him and all. and the fact he some times tells me how i feel and he tells me how wrong and bad of a person iam . witch iam not that kind of a person at all... but really what should i do? thoes feelings will not go away at all and i wish they would. for 4 years it has not worked out for the same reasons ... Do i go out with him again or do i try to forget about him? Or what you all think about this realationship let me know. thanks. So really are most guys this way?
2006-10-26 16:43:39 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I do think you should let this guy go. A relationship is made up of many elements and it should also be helping you grow as a person and he's not helping you at all by putting you down. It's hard to do it but just think, time heals all wounds. Listen and follow your heart but don't let it fool you either. Think with the heart and the brain. You deserve someone who respects you and loves you as much as you love them. A relationship is based on giving and taking. It is made up of two people. Not just one. Both need to put an effort in it to make it work. If you feel you can actually talk to him about these things and get it through to him then good! You should do it. But if not, don't beat yourself over it.
Good Luck with everything!!!
2006-10-26 16:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Athena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-26 23:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by goody11like 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-10-26 23:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by kody w 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually it plans on what kind of guy your are dating if your dating, a self centered guy then that's how he is going to be. Just get over him because he's not the kind of guy you need in your life, you need someone that will respect you and listen to what you say. Write a list about the good and bad things he has did to you. If the good out way the bad then stay with him, but if the bad out way the good then make up your mind about what you want.
2006-10-26 23:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by momo13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me to tell how many of these questions are true. There are so many of these questions asked every day on here. A popular one is "My boyfriend hits me. What do I do?".
Often it's teenagers looking for answers to there dating and guy wonders. Often they are trolls. And often they are true. Since it's hard to tell the difference I usually don't answer them,but what the heck I'll do this one lol .
I would suggest having a stern talk with your current boyfriend. You need to tell him how you feel, and that you don't like how he reacts to you and you don't like that he never listens. You need to tell him what you want for a relationship to work. Remember that a relationship is between two people. NOT one. So you BOTH need to agree on how to make the relationship work. Right now, you don't like how it's going. So you need to tell him that. Tell him how you want it to be, and then ask him how he wants it to be. Come to a decision that meets the wants and needs for both of you.
If all else fails, then move on from him. But only if none of the above works. And no not all guys are that way. There are many guys like that, and many girls like that. There are many guys that arn't like that, aswell as many girls who arn't like that.
- Hope this helps :-)
- BOO!
2006-10-26 23:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he may be insecure and feels good about putting you down...so what you do is, next time he cuts you off, tell him if he can wait until your done with your question and listen. He is not listening...he is into himself...i would walk away and let him talk. what i learned, let someone talk and talk away...dont answer, after awhile, they realize wow, i am stupid. I got a neat girl and im sitting here into myself...he will get the picture...we all have a little show off in us. hang in there...its just communication skills. go girl!!! try it out ok
2006-10-26 23:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No all guys are not same way
Some guy's love you but they dont tell you, they wanna improve you and wanna to see you in the way they dreamt about you and hence try to tell you react as they wanna but this doesnt means they should voilate your liberty and freedom in the process.
Sometimes they might mentally hurt you in the process, but you should take that in positive spirit
Try and think on same before you react
2006-10-26 23:49:09 · answer #7 · answered by ashishmulye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah. You gotta get away and not see him anymore.
He is treating you bad. You are miserable. Move on, and don't let him back in. Time will heal the wounds of the heart, but it doesn't work if you keep allowing him to do this to you.
Have you been drinking? You don't sound ok.
2006-10-26 23:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Cacia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is self centered... I would go on and let him go if he has been like that the whole relationship things dont change.. I was with my ex for 23 years and he never changed his ways... If you want to be happy and this man is not making you happy then move on life is to short to live it with someone who disrespects u ....Do not let him put you down... Thats mental abuse and it is hard to get over...
2006-10-26 23:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by SLAK 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Egomaniac! Get out while you still can or you will be in a back burner relationship! If he doesn't care now how you feel how do you think he will be once the amber's start to cool off? Your choice though.
2006-10-26 23:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋