My grandmother is sick, possibly dying, and my younger brother is in Iraq. Do I email him now and prepare him, or do I wait and not worry him until it happens? She has alsheimer's and she's in the hospital so it's not like he can call her and say goodbye. She doesn't remember anybody or anything, not even her own kids. I don't know what to do.
2006-10-26 16:37:36 · 8 answers · asked by Laura 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First, I'm sorry to hear about her. Second, I had a brother in Iraq last year, so my heart goes out to you on that too. I personally think that telling him would distract him from what's going on there. But if you think that he could request emergency leave to come home, you might want to try it. Whatever you think he can handle, you can go for. Because if you do tell him, and he can't get the leave, is he gonna be freaking out? Then you should hold off. Good luck, either way!!
2006-10-26 16:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not email him. Not only will this distract him but no knowing the state of mind he will be in, is not good. Contact your local Red Cross or the branch of military that he is in and they can locate his unit and have a chaplain tell him in person. That way he will have someone there for him if he needs some support. It is extremely hard for military personnel this time of year due to the holidays and this will just be added stress. I am sorry for everything you are going through at this time. God bless you and your family.
2006-10-26 23:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by txsweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a son and many of his fellow buddies in Iraq also. Email him and so let him know there isn't anything he can do to relieve Gma's suffering but you felt he had the right to know. Remind him to keep his head on straight and come back hone safe and sound. Thank him for those of us who also have our loved ones there for helping to keep Amercians protected while there.
2006-10-26 23:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the opportunity to talk to him,you should tell him. I am guessing that he knows that your Grandmother has Alzheimer's, but he needs to know what is going on with her.
2006-10-26 23:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with alessa except if there you could tell him on the phone instead of email seems more personal.
2006-10-26 23:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by junebug501 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably email him and let him know. He would probably want to know than find out later and ask why you didn't contact him at all.
2006-10-26 23:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Alessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ow would you feel if you found out after the fact
Yes I think you need to tell him even if he can not do anything he still has the right to know.
2006-10-26 23:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would e-mail him and tell him her condition....it's not like you can't notice alzheimers I'm sure he knew she had it whenhe left for Iraq............
2006-10-27 01:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lori1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋