2006-10-26 16:30:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 things come to mind with this:
1) Often times, name calling is how girls fight back in arguements...it's like their way of rising up above you. Many women are not very good at arguements without criticizing and name calling though...they need to learn a new way, and that often starts w/ you also learning a new way of working out disagreements. If you love her enough to work things out, then I'd suggest looking into ways of communicating better.
2) If it's just part of her personality, then dude, get out. A good relationship doesn't consist of knocking down and demeaning. And that's not the fruit of love...it's the fruit of hatred. And maybe she doesn't know how to love...but you shouldn't have to be her practice dummy.
2006-10-26 16:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Turmoyl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Twice in a week, 3 times in a month, 5 times in a year- it depends how bad the names were- if they were really bad -to the point they really hurt me emotionally- I would put up with it once and if it happened again I would not take it and would lay into her about how poor of a human being she is and every fault she has (basically point out she far from perfect and go into great detail on why and how she is not perfect) then I would move on with my life and find someone who is more appreciative.
Also, if you notice that this is a pattern and she says mean things to you often- it is a control issue-it will get worse before it gets better- you will become the vent for her agression- if she has a bad day at work and gets reprimanded from her boss you will get put down by her so she feel dominate, if she gets put down by family- again you will be insulted- bad service at a restaurant -you get insulted- why didn't you do this why didn't you say that you spineless...etc...it's basically something some people do to feel in control of another person.
2006-10-26 16:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by geom1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on when she is calling you names, when she is angry or all the time? If it is just when she is angry then from personal experience I can say it is probably to get a reaction out of you. There are times when my husband and I argue and I feel like he is just ignoring me or refuses to hear my point that I will use a profane word which really gets him wild. I do it because I am just so mad and he is blowing me off that I want to just go crazy so I light a nice word off and kaboom... now he is just as mad and notices that I must really be mad to say something like that out of character. Once I told my husband that I hated him, I didn't really mean it, but I said it. After the fight we discussed things and he told me how much it hurt him to say something like that, not matter how bad we fight there is just a line we don't cross and I learned to never do that again.
If I were you talk to her, find out if she is feeling unheard and used words like that to get your attention and then tell her that words like that are never nice and that if she truly feels that way about you then why be together with someone you think is a ...... or a ......... Tell her from now on that when you fight not to cross that line, if she refuses to hear you then tell her the kind of relationship that you are in is unhealthy to either of you and that although you may love each other, there has to be something better out there for both of you. Good luck.
2006-10-26 17:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it wouldn't take long...That just means she has no trust or faith in you at all and you should get out.... Trust is the most improtant thing in a relationship and she obviouly has none
You will know when youv'e had enough... You should tell her that if she keeps accusing you , that you will give her a reason to...lol
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-26 16:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Carmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. i think that respect is very Important in a relationship, y treat them how i want to be treated if it was the other way around and a guy did it to me, in the first one, i wont be in a relationship that I'm not comfortable with and that respect isn't really important. why be in one that in going to be hurt in emotionally or psychologically
2006-10-26 16:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by rain_witch_85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time off from her. Maybe she'll get scared and change, otherwise she's continue her behavior.
2006-10-26 16:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by maya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would depend on the context she used them in if its only during arguments i'd forget about it.but if it's all the time i'd be gone
2006-10-26 17:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by t.j. a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this point in my life, just once, then i'd say something, then twice it's done with!
2006-10-26 16:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by foolsowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how much you love her maybe try and talk to her
2006-10-26 16:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋