2006-10-26 16:18:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
she has 3 older kids and a brand new one... like 6 weeks.... she is also about a 5 hour drive for me
2006-10-26 16:22:49 · update #1
Your friendship and support. There are family support groups for serving member's families but there's nothing like a good friend. Spend time with her and her family. Make her feel less alone. If she needs a shoulder, provide it. In the long run you'll find your friendship will deepen.
Help her keep active and do things to support her husband and those others overseas.
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2006-10-26 16:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by redcoat7121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a "combat" dad when my wife deployed to Baghdad. Go to her house for a weekend once or twice a month. Chase her out and make her an appointment for "relaxation time." Take care of the kids; do the chores for her, mow the lawn and in general give her time away from the house and family. Spend the night and let her sleep in. Do the laundry, play with the kids and take them with you for time at the park so she can nap. She needs that more than anything. My friends helped me in the same way and it had immeasurable value for both myself and my kids.
2006-10-27 01:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jim from the Midwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend a day or two just with her to give her some free time. Watch her kids while she goes shopping. Get some people together and have a pot-luck dinner once in a while so that she does not have to cook occasionally. In other words, let her have a break once in a while.
2006-10-26 23:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
considering that you are too far to drive up everyday, maybe considering taking a weekend a month to stay with her, give her a few hours of much needed alone time. call her at least twice a day for encouragement. i had 5 kids when my husband was deployed. time to yourself is very rare and much appreciated.
2006-10-27 10:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her your time and a shoulder to lean on and an ear to dump her problems on. That's the best gift of all. If she has small children, help her out, babysit now and again giving her time off.
2006-10-26 23:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well since she is so far, call her a lot, give her someone to talk to. and if you can, hang out with her. the best thing for her is support and keeping busy, the busier she is the less she will worry and be sad.
2006-10-26 23:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
visit her as often as you can when you do come take the kids all of the for a walk so she can take a nap.
if you wanna give her something give aher a gift certificate(massage).
She will enoy that.
2006-10-27 01:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer to watch her kids and give her a break. she needs to take time for herself and not just the kids its hard
2006-10-26 23:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The very first thing would be your support; letting her or him know you'll always be there for them.
2006-10-26 23:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all your attention and a good ear to listen to her, in the future she will repay you many times more
2006-10-26 23:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋