so me and my bf have been dating for 10 months, recently he went back to school for his 3rd year in college, i live 3 hours away. so he has been having troubles in his classes, he says that all he can think about is me and he cant consentrate, he is on scholarships so he has to do well and he isnt, what should i do, should i let him go, so he can get his marks up or what, please help
2006-10-26 15:45:27 · 11 answers · asked by t l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do tell him to do well, i try to see him every weekend, but he says that is worse.
2006-10-26 15:51:05 · update #1
so i could go there tomorow to talk to him, he said that wouldnt be a good idea, should i anyway
2006-10-26 15:53:14 · update #2
and what should i say
2006-10-26 15:53:30 · update #3
it seems apparent that your bf is in love w you. i think that if you let him go, it will make things worse. he wont be able to concentrate at all. let him know that you need to make the time that you do spend together count and that he needs to concentrate on school so you both can look forward to a wonderful future together. remind him that he is in school for a reason and that you are proud of him. this will help give him an incentive for working harder.
2006-10-26 15:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He basically is doing 2 things. First, letting you know how important you are to him, and second finding an excuse for his sliding grades. Take it as a compliment that he is thinking of you that much. I think the main thing you need to do is reassure him that you are there for him and support him 100%. Secondly, he probably needs a pep talk about how he is one of the very few students out there that is going to school with a scholarship, and to really start focusing on his grades. There are other factors in his troubling career as a student. All you can do is listen and encourage. I say be there for him, and set goals relating to your next reunion.
2006-10-26 15:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by Duuuude no waaaay! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be with him, give him something to look forward to by making some future plans for the upcoming breaks when you'll be able to see each other. Reassure him that he is still in your heart and you're not moving on without him. If however, you want out of this relationship, make a clean break. It could make things worse for him, but only he can take responsibility for his actions, doing his schoolwork and keeping up his grades. He has to grow up sometime. You aren't his keeper and you don't need the stress of that. Or...do you think maybe he wants to guilt you into letting go because he could possibly want his freedom and he's not being honest with you?
2006-10-26 15:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...he needs to grow up. There is a time to meditate on you and the relationship you both have, and there's a time to get serious with school. If you're concerned about his success at all, you'd drop him. This is obsessive behavior, anyway, and if he can't get you in the back of his head long enough to do well in school to keep his scholarship (and consider the consequences of the alternative!!), then he's got issues of his own.
2006-10-26 15:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault that he can't concentrate, he is totally IN LOVE with you!!!
Thats absolutely beautiful!
Don't break up with him, that would be the worst thing you could do, not only will be stop concentrating but he could be going downhill from there. Losing someone he loves so much could bring him right down and then there goes his college education.
Encourage him to really focus on his studying, tell him he can study you on the weekend if he promises to work hard in college.
It sounds like encouragement is the best thing you can do but he is so in love with you that he will do anything for you, even if it means studying hard!
2006-10-26 15:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart now what you should do is sit down and talk with him and tell him you know i love you and care very deeply for you but here is the deal you need to take care of your schoolong and be responsiblie ill be right here when your done if that is what you really want but dont give up your goals cause of me cause if he does he will always blame you for him not finishing school.
2006-10-26 15:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by ZfireZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You as a woman, his girl, should have came off and said something suportive like baby you going to school makes me love you so much more because you attending school is not just benefiting you but me also because you making a family career for me and you ( so we can be togather forever) have you ever thought about that
2006-10-26 15:52:20 · answer #7 · answered by biscuit181 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to keep on telling him to focus in school, and come back to see you during the holidays, it's the only way, the other option is like you said, letting him go, but by letting him go, he'll probably do even worse, cuz of the break up. so you should support him, and motivate him to do better in school.
2006-10-26 15:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be something he can focus on.
NO, don't dump him, cause then he'll be worrying about that!!!
Have him try and meditate or yoga. That clears the soul and head.
Make him eat eggs, bacon, sausage for breakfast. REALLY.. It does make you think and concentrate better. Lots of protien.
And to chew gum!!
2006-10-26 15:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
assure him that you love him and tell him that if he dont get good grades, he dont get sex
2006-10-26 15:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by itstony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋