My dad still tries to control every move that i make and i am 21 yrs old what should i do?

Answer 1

Unless he is paying your bills he has no right to control you. His controlling is most likely coming from love & concern for you, but he needs to let you go & become an adult & make your own choices.

Answer 2

this is coming from a mother of an only child. she will be 20 in a few months. i am not as quite as bad as i was before so got engaged. i do not really know if it is a control issue or just being worried that something might happen to you. my daughter is a teenage mother and her and the baby (soon to be 3) live with us. the fiance is not the dna dad but has stepped up to the plate. i know i am on my daughter case all the time. i just want the best for her. to take care of herself and her baby. to help clean around the house. here's a good one for you. we finally let her get her first job last week because i wanted her to be able to stay at home with her son. my daughter and i have a great relationship even if she feels that i am controlling. she just tells me what i want to hear and goes on. (ha). good luck remember you only have one dad.

Answer 3

Parent alway take theirs children as baby even though you 21. He does control in the house and what moreover lady girl like you. He afraid that you make a wrong move in your life and he will feel bad over it. So listen to your dad never be wrong. Remember he always love you that why he control.Parents are our best partner in all life.

Answer 4

My parents did the same thing!!! it was horrible. I decided to go away to school - I did a grad program abroad. When I came back and they tried to do the same thing, they couldn't because how can they control someone who lived on their own for a year? in another country? So it was a great solution that helped my relationship with my parents, helped my education and career and gave me an experience I think about every single day of my life. Really, consider taking a class abroad somewhere.

Answer 5

If you're still at home/being financially supported by your parents, there's not much you can do. To establish yourself as an adult you have to be using only your own money, and living in your own place. Come up with a simple phrase, like, "Thanks dad, I'll keep that in mind" when he tries to tell you what to do, and change the subject, or talk some more so that he can't say anything.

Answer 6

Sit down with him. Get another person to help with this. Sounds like Dad is scared of loosing you, so he does the control thing. Moving out is NOT the best idea. I did that, at age 18, and life is really tough!!

Answer 7

Politely tell your dad, in a firm, confident voice, that you have a life and he should get one too. Unless of course, he is paying for everything in your life, then you'd just have to shut up and take it. But if he's not...let him know in no uncertain terms that he's not in control of the decisions you make, and while you respect his willingness to father you into adulthood and help you out with the wisdom factor, his "child" rearing is over with.

Answer 8

Provide for yourself. Some parents and people think that they should have a say as long as they are paying any bills at all. Maybe he is not providing. Adults are only controlled by what we allow to control us. Take a stand for yourself lovingly and respectfully. It will not be easy, but it will be worth it. Good Luck

Answer 9

I try to do that to my kids too. It's because of all the bad news and hearing about accidents. He will worry about you and your safety as any good parent will. I'll still be trying to be the boss no matter how old they are. Since you probably still live at home you should follow the rules out of respect.

Answer 10

Are you still living in the house?

Move out

Are you on your own, with no help at all from him?

Politely remind him that, at 21, you are an adult and cn manage for yourself.