My mother was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. It has a heavy toll on me and I don't know what to do! There's no one I can talk to! The one person I WANT to talk to about it doesn't even know I exist! Help?!?!?
2006-10-26 15:37:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
As a cancer survivor, believe it or not the best person to talk about it to is your mom. Be involved with her and her doctor and learn as much as you can. The best overall thing for you to do is be with her and support her. I know that the one thing that kept me wanting to beat it was the love and support of my family. I wish you and your mom the very best.
2006-10-26 15:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Vinnie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey lil Hoops, believe it or not, you are not alone. My mother was also diagnosed with cancer. The first thing I will say is, don't lose sight of what's important in your relationship with your mother, that will never change. Secondly, the best person to talk to is your mother. Even if it's akward at first, even if you have to push her to open up to you, ultimately, communicating with her will be the most important and rewarding thing. My father in law is fighting cancer right now, it sucks. He's having a hard time. Listen Hoops, talkin' to friends an' boyfriends helps, but don't dis' the idea of support groups. Mostly they're people been there done that. Just search online or even check with your local hospital for a cancer support group. Good luck, an if you want, you can talk to me. Ryan. redanddenise@sbcglobal.net.
2006-10-26 23:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Butterflygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing may be to find a cancer support group for families in your area. The cancer clinic or doctor that your mother see may be able to help you with that.
Another alternative is to go online and look for support groups, chats, and message boards where you can talk to people in similar situations.
A good place to start for an online forum is CancerCare. You will need to sign up and than they will contact you. They have facilitators moderate the support groups and I think there is one for people who have parents diagnosed with cancer:
http://www.cancercare.org/
Another place to look for support groups would be The American Cancer Society:
http://www.cancer.org/
Either way it is really time for you to become strong for your mothers sake. I am sure that if she knew how upset you were that it would make her miserable. Please, please try to regroup your thoughts. Talk to your mother. Get all your fears out in the open. Hug her, and love her and just be there for her when she needs you to lean on.
Stay strong.
2006-10-28 19:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Panda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Grandmother passed away six years ago from lung cancer. It is very hard on everyone involved but don't give up. I would say talk to you mother also. SHe is probally just as scared, uncertian and as shocked as you are. You can also go to a Pastor or some like that. I hope that everything goes ok and if you need to talk you can e-mail me. I sat with my grandmother for nine months and it helps to talk to someone that has been through what you are going through also
2006-10-26 22:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by greatestmomntheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. My mom had cancer too. It's very scary for everyone. I think the best person to talk to is your mom. Let her know how you feel, let her know that you love her and will support her too. If you can go with her to doctor's appointments etc. Get involved with her fight with this horrible disease. You will be ok. Take one day at a time.
2006-10-28 10:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, one thing at a time.
Your mother has to have a mastectomy?
She's in enough distress as it is. So stop going off on the deep end and give her support.
The guy you like doesn't know you exist?
Big deal.
He ain't worth it, then.
And, I'm sure you have some supportive friends you can talk with.
So quit tormenting yourself, already.
2006-10-26 22:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If what I am saying is not appropriate, please forgive me. No one but cancer family member support groups know what you are going through. My best friend at church is 58, had breast cancer 8 years ago and now is fighting 5 advanced tumors of lung cancer. No, she certainly didn't deserve it....even lived a life of exercise, no smoking, etc...but her hope and faith in getting well is absolutely amazing......after your initial grief, I just know that you will dig deep and find your hope in your Mom getting well....it does happen so often with breast cancer. You will be her greatest cheerleader in getting cancer free.....
Please let me share my favorite prayer in the bible when Paul prays for the Ephesians:
My reponse is to get down on my knees before the Father, this magnificent Father who parcel out all heaven and earth. I ask him to strengthen you by his Spirit--not a brute stength but a glorious inner strength--that Christ will live in you as you open the door and invite him in. And I ask him that with both feel planted firmly on love, you'll be able to take in with All Chrsitians the extravagant dimensions of Christ's love. Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! live full lives, live in the fullness of God.
GOD CAN DO ANYTHING, YOU KNOW--FAR MORE THAN YOU COULD EVER IMAGINE OR GUESS OR REQUEST IN YOUR WILDEST DREAMS! HE DOES IT NOT BY PUSHING US AROUND BUT BY WORKING WITHIN US, HIS SPIRIT DEEPLY AND GENTLY WITHIN US.
May the peace of Christ be with you.
2006-10-26 22:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mother was diagnosed with breats cancer six months ago. She just finished chemo. At first I just cried. My friend came over and we ate junk food and i cried. One thing to remember is that cancer is not a death sentence. In the beginning i tried not to talk to my mom because it just upset her but after a few weeks we sat down and comforted each other. The hardest part for my mom was losing her hair. It devastated her and we convinced her to shave her head because it was too hard for her to watch it fall out. I went to half of my moms chemo sessions just to keep her company. i think she liked that. My mother is doing well now and we are all getting tattoos to celebrate the end of her treatment. Good luck to you and your family and if you want to talk email me at smaj611@yahoo.com.
2006-10-26 22:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sara J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont no how you feel bc im the one that has the cancer but i do have 3 kids that no i have it .. if you need to talk you can e-mail me id be glad to listen.
2006-10-26 23:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by purple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to him and tell him about your deep sorrow . be there for your mother when she needs you . With so many new things she'll be ok . I wil put you and your mom in my prayers
2006-10-26 22:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋