Friend has ashes of recently deceased son in box. She is the mother and is carrying him around. Any suggestions?
2006-10-26 15:32:15 · 15 answers · asked by communityinflorida 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Son was 15, been about a month. I have not said a word just have never seen anything like this.
2006-10-26 15:48:54 · update #1
Sometimes people just need time to accept the fact. Gently approach the topic of possiby buying an urn or scattering the remains in his favorite spot. If she isn't willing to listen, she isn't ready to let go just yet. Give her time, no one knows what she is going through and everyone grieves differently. Hope this helps!
2006-10-26 15:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Reagan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just recently went to my husbands grandmothers memorial and she was cremated. They have these really cool urns now and that is what her son did for her. They are shaped like flowers or I have even seen one that is shaped like dolphins jumping out of the ocean. Maybe you could ask her if she has thought about something like that
2006-10-26 22:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by greatestmomntheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her keep carrying him around. My dad was cremated and my sister keeps alittle bit of his remains up on her kitchen counter. I didn't keep any because thats not really my dad thats just his remains, but I believe he is somewhere starting over. It makes her feel better having him with her, so leave it be.
2006-10-26 22:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by NoName 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe direct her to LifeGems.com...they turn ashes into diamonds and she could then pass the jewelry onto the next generation when her time comes.
2006-10-26 22:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by rynay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when they get cremated the survivor (i.e wife/mother) also receives a death certificate that allows them to take their remains how they please as long as they have that piece of paper. And it has to be the person on that paper who has the remains, anyone else is f....! But as far as taking the remains shopping with you . That's freaky
2006-10-26 22:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Butter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She'll stop when she needs to.
If she's at all open to suggestion, you can try suggesting she carry a small bit in a locket or prayer box charm.
2006-10-26 22:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of is pray. I have never heard of that before. Good Luck
2006-10-26 22:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Piper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her something fancy to put him in that is too heavy to carry, otherwise just let it be. Grieving is necessary, and each does it their own way.. DO NOT MAKE HER FEEL ANYTHING ELSE BAD NOW, LIKE REJECTION OR SHAME.
2006-10-26 22:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Switch the ashes with cat litter and visa versa
2006-10-26 22:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Buy an urn or something. Perhaps a locket.
2006-10-26 22:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋